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Advice or something. - August 9th 2012, 11:27 AM

Well I'm 16 years old and most of my life I've been overweight. I was always bigger than my friends but when I was younger it didn't really matter. Kids don't focus on looks.
I moved to a different city when I was 12 and it was harder for me to make friends. When you're in middle school everyone focuses on looks and they don't really care about your personality. At this point I was depressed. Sure I made a couple of friends but it wasn't the same. I had to make myself fit in.
Now that I'm an incoming senior in high school, I can't help but think that I have always been bigger than my friends and it just makes me so upset. I've tried exercising and dieting but nothing works. I just want to be skinny and I cry myself to sleep every night because I'm not lust want to be like everyone else. I just want to be happy.
   
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Re: Advice or something. - August 9th 2012, 11:34 AM

Hey there,

First of all let me say you're not alone and this sounds very similar to my own experiences, so I know how hard it is to get your head around the fact that looks genuinely aren't the most important thing. Being bigger than other people does not mean that you are worth less than they are, it's a trivial thing when it comes to the relationships you form. Anyone who looks at your exterior rather than what you have inside is not worth it.

If this really is such a big issue for you, perhaps you could try losing some weight in a healthy way. Don't aim to be skinny, that's not a good thing to think. Aim to feel good about yourself, and do this in a way which does not damage your health but instead enhances it. Perhaps adjust your diet so that it's a bit healthier, or do a bit of exercise. Go for walks or on a run in the morning, even doing something like playing the wii might help!

I know how upsetting it can be to see yourself in the way that you do, but I want to tell you that you're more than just 'bigger than your friends'. You're a person, and that means you're worth just as much as those who are smaller than you are. You're not defined by your weight. You have a right to feel good in your own skin, regardless of what skin that is.

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Re: Advice or something. - August 9th 2012, 06:37 PM

Hi there.

I'm sorry that things are rough for you right now and that you feel this way. I can understand that it must be really hard.

I agree with what Hollie has said. If you are overweight, try and lose weight in a healthy way such as exercising and eating healthier foods (that doesn't mean you have to cut all junk out of your diet!) You can even talk to your doctor about this for some advice. But be realistic and aim to be a healthy weight; not under weight. Just to be fit and healthy.

I know it's hard to be brought up into an environment where the looks seems to make a person be liked and personalities get forgotten about, but you need to know that looks definitely are not everything. We're all beautiful in our own ways and I am sure you're a lovely person and thats what people should be looking for in a friend.

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Re: Advice or something. - August 9th 2012, 07:25 PM

Basically what Hollie said, I couldn't have said that better. I also agree with Jessie that you should bring it up with your doctor; he or she will know what your healthy target should be and can give you advice about going about this the right way. They may also need to run tests to make sure there isn't something else going on that needs to be taken care of.


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Re: Advice or something. - August 10th 2012, 05:47 AM

Ah, everyone summed it up.

I've been in the same boat, but looks won't matter when you find people you are close with and don't care about looks.

Keep fighting!
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Re: Advice or something. - August 10th 2012, 06:18 AM

i agree with what others said, but you could try joining a sports team? I know that when i did basketball i lost alot of weight.


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Re: Advice or something. - August 10th 2012, 06:26 AM

Good you should join some sport team which makes you fell better.I know how upsetting it can be to see yourself in the way that you do, but I want to tell you that you're more than just 'bigger than your friends'. You're a person, and that means you're worth just as much as those who are smaller than you are. You're not defined by your weight. You have a right to feel good in your own skin, regardless of what skin that is.
   
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