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Angry im a dissapointment - August 18th 2012, 04:27 AM

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so there is this guy who i liked for quite a while now. we are talking and we both like each other, but the only problem is my bestfriend. this guy and her were talking about a moth ago and just stopped. i gained feelings for him because i saw who he really was instead of some friend. we were happily walking around for two days until someone told her. she was furious with me but i couldnt understand why. Why couldnt i be with him? Why was she mad at me? why is she trying to stop me from being happy? so she calls me one night and starts saying sh is dissapointed in me and canot believe i would do such a thing even when i knew she sill liked him ( which i didnt because she insisted of being done with him) .
she was so mad at me and i didnt know what to do. so my brother tells my mom who i am trying to devolop a relationship with and the yelling begins. "how could you do that to her? it was her ex? thats girl code and you broke it! some friend you are. what a bitch move. i wouldnt want to be your friend , would you? what a dissapointment you are." ive never heard such pwerful words come out her mouth it hurt my physically. i felt a pain in my heart, like they didnt want me as their daughter like my real father didnt.
my mom texts her and apologizes for such rude behavior i had towards her and i am deeply sorry. little does my mom and dad know THEY NEVER EVEN DATED. i didnt understand what i did wrong but i accepted it as one of my many failures( which i am not; i am a 4.0 gpa student, class president, on the volleyball basketball and soccer team. i am miss teen of ____ (city) homecoming princess in leadership and countless other things)
so i get my phone facebook twitter and any other socializing time i want taken away. i cannot be seen with the guy i like or else , i dont want to think what my parents would do. all my friends think my friend is being so fake and my parents are taking it over board (which i think too) .
so the boy comes up with a plan to wait 2 months and let everyone forget about what we had, and tell everyone after the two months. great idea i said, but what about my parents, idk if they'll think differently of him or still hate him for "not respecting me and my friend" i dont want to waste his time for 2 months come to find out we still cant date.
idk what to do. do i tell him we cant talk anymore, or do i wait the 2 months to see if my parents approve of what i am doing and who i am seeing.
   
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Re: im a dissapointment - August 18th 2012, 04:50 AM

I am truly sorry for what your parents said. You are not a disappointment,
don't ever think that way.

If you and this guy of yours like each other then give a relationship a shot.
You should also sit your parents down and tell them to listen to what you
have to say. Tell them that your friend did NOT in fact date him, that your
friend and him were just talking as you said, you didn't break girl code
(Girl Code: Don't date someone your friend dated), and you weren't being
rude. Tell your mother that she did go overboard with what she said, tell
her how it hurts you. A mother should not ever EVER say anything like
that to their children. If your mother refuses to talk with you about it, well
all I can say is give her some time.

If I was in this situation I'd tell my mom to shut up and listen to me. To
stop making irrational decisions before she heard me out. Your mother has
to respect that you have feelings too. That she stepped over the fine line
of what a mother should say to their daughter and what a mother shouldn't
ever say to anyone. Calling you a bitch was childish of her; tell her that.
Make it clear to her that you like this guy, you've earned it honey. But
under any circumstances should you ever say your a disappointment.
Because look at you, your a 4.0 student, athletic, beautiful, your life is
going so well for you to have your parents bring you down.

Just talk to her about it, talk to your friend about it and defiantly talk to
this guy about it. You shouldn't be punished for something you didn't do,
personally I think your parents went a little crazy before getting the full
story.

Stay strong honey, life will start shinin again.




   
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Re: im a dissapointment - August 18th 2012, 05:02 AM

thank you so much , your are truely a blessing, i just feel so down lately, and to make matters worse i cant even date the one guy i like. i am defintielyy going to take your advice and talk to my mom because im at my boiling point. thank you so much .
   
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Re: im a dissapointment - August 18th 2012, 05:29 AM

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