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plans - November 22nd 2012, 11:11 PM

I have plans, Plans for 3am saturday 24/11/12, I dont want to go through with it...
Please Help me find another way. Please....

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Re: plans - November 22nd 2012, 11:41 PM

Hi there,

I'm really sorry that you're going through a bad time at the moment. I just want to say you've done really well to come to us here. I'm glad you've reached out for the support.

Do you want to tell us a little about what's going on for you right now? You seem very low to me and I am wondering whether you know why you're low and what's triggered these thoughts of suicide for you? How long have you been feeling this way? Of course, you don't have to tell us anything if you don't want too, but if you do talk to us more and open up a little more, it might really help us be able to help you, you know? And that's all we want to do - help you. We're not here to judge you as a person, we're just here to help you get through the hard times, okay? We care about you and we want you to be okay and well.

Now, you say you have plans to kill yourself but you're also saying you don't want to do it. You have to listen to the part of you that wants life, that wants to live because I know it's there inside of you. I think that you're just hurting an awful lot right now and things probably seem pretty dark and endless and I can imagine that you feel pretty alone in this too. And I know that must be a really horrible way for you to be feeling, but hope is still alive. Hope is there and you can't go of it. Listen to the part of you that is screaming for help and is screaming for support. Okay? Because help is there and you CAN get through this. I think you need to try and remove those plans. Do you have it written down? Maybe you could tear up the paper or burn it. And if it's just your heard, you need to focus on what you're going to do over the weekend and into the week to keep yourself focused and distracted. Okay? Those plans don't have to stay as plans. You can let them go and that's okay. You don't have to go through with it.

I think it might be really good for you to talk to someone. Of course we're here for you and I think you know that but sometimes it's really good and helpful for us to have someone to talk to face to face and have that kind of support instead of something over a screen. Do you get where I'm coming from? I'm sure your family and friends will all be willing and wanting to help you through this but you have to let them in. And there's people like teachers, tutors, school/college nurses and counsellor and even your doctor. All of these people can help you get through this but they can only help if they know you need help and if they know what is happening for you right now. You have to be honest with them and let them in. And doing so doesn't make you weak or anything like that, okay? Also it might be a good idea for you to see your doctor and to talk about seeing a mental health professional to help you work through any problems you have. It might help, it might not but I think it's definitely something worth thinking about. Here is a list of people who can help you and here is a list of helplines. These people can help you and they will understand that it might be hard for you to open up okay, they get that but they do this job because they want to help people like yourself and people like yourself, deserve help. You deserve help. Don't be alone in this.

Now, here is a good list of reasons to live. I think it might be helpful for you to create your own list of reasons to live. You can use ones from this list too but you can make it a little personal as well. And you don't have to do it all at once, you can do it over time and maybe set yourself a goal such as doing two a day or something that feels achievable to you. Think about what you really want out of life. And set yourself goals to. Both short term and long term ones. So things for the near future like reading a book, going for a walk, watching a film, having a bubble bath etc. And then do some long term goals such as going to college, falling in love, having children, having a career, running the marathon. Think about what you really want to do.

Also here, is a list of alternatives to self harm which you can use when you're having thoughts of suicide. But you need to know that not every single thing on this list is going to help you and for now, this is going to be a little bit of trial and error and finding things which do in fact help you. But when you come across things that don't help, don't give in. Just because something doesn't help doesn't mean nothing will help okay? Keep on trying new and different things.

You can do this. I know you can beat this if you set your mind to it. You're in control okay? No one else is, you are. And you're worth so much. You really are so keep on fighting and don't be on your own. We're always here for you.

Look after yourself and keep your chin up.


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