Why am I not good enough for myself?

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I can't stand to look at myself in the mirror. My face, my body... I'm just so ugly . I'm eighteen years old, and my acne is ruining my life. None of my friends (the few that I have) have even so much as one blemish on their face. I'm like the black sheep with a plague consuming my face, my confidence, my identity... everything . I'm whiter than the color white itself, and because of this my acne looks even worse. My body, ugh... I'm a stick. I'm 6'1" and I weigh like 145 pounds at the most. I always begin to work out, but then I lose motivation and end up quitting. I want to look good ... It's a miracle I even have a girlfriend. Who knows how I managed to be dating a 10 when I'm only a mere 3 at most. I want to just bury myself in a hole and never wake up. I want to be good enough for myself... I want to love myself. Help me .

[Girly.Tomboy.017]

I'm going through the exact same thing! 18 years old probably doesn't sound very young at all, but really it is. You're still growing. Your acne will disappear, I'm sure. If you want to change the way your body looks, you're going to have to force yourself to commit to the hardwork it will take. Joining a sports team helps too (because the coach will literally force you to do stuff you really dont want to do, I've been there). We can't make you love yourself, and you can't really force yourself to either. Stuff like this just takes time and effort. I'm not sure if all that helped, and if it didn't, I'm sorry. No matter how long it takes though, you will learn to love yourself eventually. Good luck with everything!

Hey, Jonathan.

I am really sorry about this, I really am. I struggle with this as well. It's really hard and difficult because self-image is everything. How you view yourself shapes your confidence. So when you aren't happy with yourself then it makes everything so much harder.

Could you work out with a friend? That way you'll be with someone and motivated so you won't quit.

Acne is pretty bad in our teen years thanks to our crazy hormones but it will eventually clear up sometime. You could make that better by washing your face and using acne creams.

Perhaps you should talk to your girlfriend about how you're feeling? And lack of self-esteem? Sometimes it can help to get it off your chest.

Something I figured I should put out there, even though your friends look good, it doesn't mean they don't have insecurities about themselves as well. No matter how good looking someone is, they can still have insecurities.

Just something I thought I'd mention, don't push yourself so hard to make yourself look great because of everyone else, do it for you instead, okay? Do it for your self-image. You deserve to feel like you look good and like yourself. You could also put notes and such around your room and in things you use with positive quotes about your looks in it to remind yourself. And something that may help in learning to love yourself is looking at the positive things about you. Even the smallest things, if it's positive, then focus on that and not your flaws.

Remember you'll get there someday. It takes time, effort and dedication to get past self-hatred but it's possible.

Hope I helped a bit. Feel free to message me if you need someone to talk to.

Stay Strong <3