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Unhappy I'm tryin'... - June 15th 2015, 05:06 AM

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I'm trying my hardest not to cut..
Its been about 20 days...that i haven't cut..
honestly i don't think i can last any longer..
..the urge won't stay away,it just keeps coming back..
I've been fighting it for about a hour,and i just dont think i can fight this one...

Waiting is a sign of true love and patience,anyone can say "I love you" But not everyone can wait and prove it's true.

Some say it's painful to wait for someone,Some say it's painful to forget someone,But the worst pain comes when you don't know whether to wait or forget.
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Re: I'm tryin'... - June 15th 2015, 08:58 AM

Hi, Beth!

Just saw this thread and I noticed you posted it quite a few hours ago. I hope you're okay right now and have beat the urge. Even if you haven't, just remember that either way; you're still a strong person. Because for one, you posted this reaching out to try to avoid giving in along with trying so hard to fight the urge (plus, you've went 20 days self-harm free, so congratulations, that's really wonderful. Those 20 days do mean something, regardless of a potential relapse!). Second, if you didn't give in, then that's another urge resisted that'll contribute to recovery! Either way, the way I see it you have something to be proud of.

Wondering if there's anything in particular causing your urges? Is anything bothering you lately? Recognizing your triggers can be helpful as you can then learn how ways to cope better or avoid them if possible. Perhaps you could write down your triggers in a journal as you come across them. In terms of beating the urges, how about trying things on the self-harm alternatives list? Trying many of them out till you find several that work for you might help as you can alternate between them.

Getting your feelings out in healthier ways is important so that you're able to release your emotions in ways that don't harm yourself. Could you write down your thoughts and feelings in journal, and/or express yourself through creative writing? Other things that may help is to do light exercise if possible as it can help mange your urges since it releases endorphins just as self-harm does. Sunlight has that effect too which is why going for daily short walks in the sun might be rather beneficial! Or maybe you could take up gardening? That could be a rather fun hobby along with being an outdoor activity.

Do you have anyone in your life you can go to for support right now? Such as your parents, another trusted adult or a close trusted friend of yours? Having a support system and being able to talk about your urges could be quite helpful. Plus, everyone deserves to have some help through the tough times, so do you! Maybe you could hold a conversation with someone like your mom, or talk with a friend on the phone when you have urges. Distracting yourself and staying in comforting company of others can be helpful till the urges pass. Distracting yourself with a hobby you're easily immersed with is also a good idea.

Hope this helped a bit! You're welcome to send me a message if you'd like someone to talk to, Beth. I don't mind listening at all. In the meantime, just keep in mind that you can do this. You're already doing really well so far and have proven you can go far self-harm free. Keep it up and feel free to continue seeking support when you're having trouble with urges. Stay strong and take care!
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