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Unhappy Vary depressed - September 4th 2015, 02:46 PM

So I'm vary depressed because I dated this guy for like two months but I ended to save him. I recently ended a five year relationship before I dated this guy, I thought I was ready but really I jumped into something when I wasn't ready. I ended before I could hurt him more then what it was already at. I fell hard for him and I believe he fell hard for me. Now I'm trying to still be in his life because I still care and love him but he doesn't really say anything. I can tell our relationship with each other friendly has changed. He's my best friend. Now I said goodbye because I was just hurting and getting really depressed and he said I understand. So you understand you mean the world to me, your my best friend. I guess he didn't. now I'm just hurting and really depressed I don't know what to do because he's the only one who can fix this now.
   
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Re: Vary depressed - September 5th 2015, 01:50 AM

Hey Brina,

I am sorry you are having a hard time. I can understand how hard it must have been for you to move on from a five year old relationship. Feelings are complicated especially when it comes to moving on. Even after we feel we have moved on in life, our mind starts thinking of the past and this is what seems to have happened with you. From what you have posted it looks like you really do like this guy and care for him. Since you have mentioned he is your best friend, have you tried talking to him about how you are feeling? You yourself mentioned that the only person who can fix this is him and that will happen only if you tell him how you are feeling.

I understand he is probably hurt about this himself, but if you explain to him why you decided to end the relation I think he will understand. You mentioned you broke up with him to avoid hurting him in the future. Does he know this? I know it's hard for both of you, but if you both make an effort to be in touch, you never know... there's always a chance for a second time when you have moved on from your past completely. It's best you be frank with him and tell him everything you are feeling.

I know you are hurting and I know how hard it is to function when our mind and heart is somewhere else. Maybe you could do something to distract your mind from this for a while, so once it clears up you can decided carefully what you want in the future. You could take up a new hobby or join a hobby class. Everytime you feel sad, take a walk in the park, refresh your mind.

I hope things work out for you. I am just a message away if you need someone to talk to. Stay strong.


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Re: Vary depressed - September 5th 2015, 02:38 AM

thank you so much, and yes he knows how I feel but he doesn't respond to any of it.
   
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Re: Vary depressed - September 6th 2015, 10:32 AM

If he doesnt appreciate you, then he doesn't deserve you. there are friends to be made, lovers to be loved, and chances to be had. Second chances are meant for everyone. Stop thinking negatively and remember that you deserve companionship and love. If he doesn't appreciate how truly wonderful, sweet, and nice you are, then he doesn't deserve you.

Now, get out there and think about what you can do, and get into more activities that will eventually have you meeting more people, and that will enrich your life with companionship, friends and love . And to be honest, i think you deserve much better.

You deserve to smile to the point where your lips hurt because of happiness. Never forget that.

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Re: Vary depressed - September 9th 2015, 09:16 PM

So we began to talk then out of the blue hebsyarts telling me what kind of person I am and what he says I've done int the past. Drama and lies. I don't want him believing what is a lie. Yes I've had a one night stand and me n the five year guy only broke up once. I thought what me n this other guy had was real but I guess not. I really fell for him and now I feel like it was all a lie, I feel used, and betrayed. All I want to do is tell him the truth but he won't believe me it seems. It seems like everything I say he thinks is a lie but its not. I've never lied to him. Sorry kinda ranting. Just hurting a little.
   
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Re: Vary depressed - September 10th 2015, 11:47 AM

and its better to just come clean and tell everything.. better than keeping everything within yourself cause it's just going to make things worse. It's better to get it all out, and i think its time you forgave yourself , and learn that there's always a second chance for everyone .

I believe that things will definitely work out for you .


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