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Told My Best Friend - December 17th 2016, 06:17 PM

So, I finally told one of my best friends today about how I have been having symptoms of depression, which has increased my anxiety. Also, which has brought back very small urges (a couple times a week at most) of self-harm. And that sometimes I think "what if I wasn't here, would it matter too much."

I'm not suicidal and I don't have a plan, but sometimes my thoughts go in that direction. I haven't been able to tell anybody until today because last night, I just completely broke and knew I needed too. He was completely understanding and wanted me to know that no matter what the he loves me, and he will support me and that I can call or text him at any time. (which I already knew, which is why he was the first person in real life i told).

He thinks that I should tell my boyfriend and my counselor. I don't think he's wrong, I just know how hard it was to tell him. Like I had two panic attacks just typing the text out and one when he called me to discuss it. I'm not good at dealing with depression, I haven't dealt with it since I was like 21. Now all of the sudden I feel like it's slowly coming back. I know, that his suggestion of telling these two people is actually extremely important.

I mean, my boyfriend and I are fully committed and live together and it's not easy living with a secret with the one person you love the most. It's just, he doesn't handle these things very well. Probably because he has to deal with the most, outside of myself. So, I don't know.

Also, someone on a crisis line gave me the suggestion of e-mailing my counselor and telling him. But my counselors office has a strict no e-mail policy because it cannot be guaranteed that it's confidential. So, I don't know what to do because I know that I physically will not be able to tell him.

Right now I feel pretty good because of opening up to someone, in real life. It's like a small weigh has been lifted but knowing that I can't stop with him makes me a little nervous.

I just need to vent and if anyone has suggestions on anything that I mentioned, I would love to hear them. <3
   
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Re: Told My Best Friend - December 19th 2016, 06:54 PM

Hi Cass,

I'm really sorry that you're going through this, I know how hard those types of thoughts and telling someone close to you how you're feeling. When my depression started getting so bad that I had plans and had a couple suicide attempts I was taken to the hospital through the school. In that time of my life I didn't have many friends that understood.

I am so glad that your friend is so understanding about this. I believe that you should tell your boyfriend and your counselor. They are the best two to support you when you're feeling this way. I also think that you should talk to your doctor and consider going on medication, or to try and come up with ways to lower your depression.

Everyone here at TeenHelp are always here for you. Let us know if we can ever do anything for you.

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Re: Told My Best Friend - December 21st 2016, 05:22 AM

I think you can get through this.

You have a few best friends who're comparable to the ex best friend i had.

I have no one.

I will kill myself soon.

I can't stand life any more.

You have hope, I don't . Cherish it.


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Re: Told My Best Friend - December 22nd 2016, 05:43 PM

I'm so sorry you're feeling this way, Green yoahi! I really believe that's people love and care about you. You have friends on here for sure and we care about you! Stay strong! If you need anything you PM me!
   
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