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He's gotten worse - April 15th 2017, 05:39 AM

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So about a week ago I made a post talking about how my 8 year brother is depressed and how I don't know how to deal with it. In short, he came up to me and told me he purposely gets in trouble at home because he thinks he deserves it. He does things that he knows will make my parents angry so they will yell at him. He thinks he is a mean person, a jerk, and a bully. I also asked him at the end of that conversation if he had ever purposely hurt himself, and he said he has scraped up his knees outside because he thinks he deserves it. I also didn't know if I should have told my mom because she is already under enough stress as it is.

But about an hour ago, I get out of the shower and hear my brother crying, quiet quietly. He had gotten to bed about an hour earlier, so I was hoping he just had a bad dream. I go into his room to make sure everything is okay, and I try to comfort him. He kind of shoos me away from him and doesn't say anything. I quickly realize that he has most likely been up in bed for over an hour just crying, and I had absolutely no idea what to do. I just ended up kissing him and leaving because that's what he wanted. I checked on him about 10 minutes later and he was fast asleep.

I am so so worried about him right now, and I just want to tell someone. But the other problem I have right now is it's Easter, and both my and my moms birthdays are next week, and I don't want to ruin either of them. I also am extremely busy this weekend and next week, so I have no idea when I would talk to anyone, let alone who. I really don't want to tell my mom right now just because she doesn't need more stress right now, even though I feel bad about her not knowing. I was thinking about talking to my school counselor to see what she has to say on this issue, but I won't be able to talk to her for at least a week.

What on earth do I do? All I want is my brother to be okay and know he is loved, but I don't want to hurt and or worry other people in the process, so how do I go about this situation?
   
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Re: He's gotten worse - April 15th 2017, 07:54 AM

Can you find an adult for your brother to talk to?

It would have to be someone you trust won't go spread whatever your brother says around.

Think of everyone you know, the more distant the better.

It's also possible that you did exactly the right thing when you listened to your brother and demonstrated you cared, because he fell asleep 10 minutes later.

Sometimes there are actually two problems: There's whatever he's unhappy about, and then there's his unhappiness. You can fix the second problem without fixing the first problem.

I'm so impressed how loving and kind you are to your brother! You're demonstrating love to him, and he's learning from that.
   
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Re: He's gotten worse - April 15th 2017, 09:05 PM

Your brother really needs to be able to talk to someone. But till he can I would go talk to him every night. Let him talk to you show that you care. It may be the difference in the end.


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Re: He's gotten worse - April 16th 2017, 07:51 PM

Professional help is needed, ASAP. Don't panic, I've seen kids around that age be depressed (myself included) and many of them make it out, if it's treated. I made a mistake and went to a professional too late. If you really, really are sure that you don't want to stress your mother, then you should help him as much as possible.
   
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Re: He's gotten worse - April 17th 2017, 09:27 AM

Hi Frozen,

There was kinda hurt that I feel since I have a son whose age is almost as your brother, and I couldn't help but think that he is very young to feel so depressed. I understand that as much as possible you wouldn't want your mom to be stressed out but somehow she needs to know - mother's touch can somehow 'cure'. Nonetheless a professional help is needed since your brother have hurt himself and thinks its all his fault so he deserves to get hurt. Your brother needs someone he can trust. Just make him feel youre there for him.
   
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