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I don't know what is wrong with me... - July 30th 2018, 11:36 PM

[SIZE="a"]I've been debating coming on here to seek advice and this is really hard to talk about because I don't want people thinking I'm messed up. (I'm 14 btw)

I'm in a state of depression not knowing why I'm like what I am. Basically for sometime I realised I like stuff to do with BDSM and I've grown to hate liking it. I think I'm really messed up to like it and I want to stop thinking about it. But every time I see something to do with it I instantly start thinking about it and I try to stop myself cause I don't want anything to do with it. I think to myself "what if I become a rapist when i grow up" or "i could get sent to prison". I don't want to cause any harm to anyone I'm not a bad person.

I don't want to tell an friends or family because I don't want them to think differently of me. I have GAD so I am a frequent worrier but I'm starting to lose hope here.

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Re: I don't know what is wrong with me... - August 2nd 2018, 10:52 PM

You aren't messed up and no-one here is going to judge you.

You're young and curious and you also like BDSM. There is nothing wrong with that. While not everyone is into BDSM, it doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with those that are.

Sometimes, when we think there is something 'wrong' with us, we tend to focus on it a lot. This is especially true if you try to avoid thinking about it as sometimes that can often cause the opposite effect and we end up thinking about not thinking about it! Maybe it would help if you try to accept yourself as you are and that you are interested in BDSM, rather than feel that this is unacceptable?

Liking BDSM doesn't mean you will be a rapist or go to prison. BDSM works as long as it's safe and consensual. I'm wondering why you are concerned about becoming a rapist and going to prison...is it to do with BDSM, certain thoughts, or just general anxiety? Sometimes we may have graphic thoughts that suddenly enter our head and are difficult to get out of. These may be intrusive thoughts and can be linked to anxiety and are very common. Even then, it doesn't mean you will be a rapist.

I hope you will be able to accept who you are and try to challenge the thoughts of being a bad person. Remember, you can try talking to your doctor or a counsellor about your general anxiety and how that may be linked to your thoughts.

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Re: I don't know what is wrong with me... - August 3rd 2018, 07:35 AM

Mann coming from another 14 year old i can get why it could be scary to be attracted to bdsm but it won't turn you into a bad person at all. Most bdsm people keep there bdsm and there real lives separate and it works. I can tell you myself that i found myself drawn to some weird things like really weird. But its really up to you, if you keep the mind set that you don't like it long enough then,later you'll be disgusted by it. But I don't know I'f your into it then i'd say "go for it". Much love my friend message if you need anything
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Re: I don't know what is wrong with me... - August 16th 2018, 06:28 AM

Thanks for sharing...
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