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Unhappy Isolated and ill - August 12th 2018, 07:00 AM

[SIZE="a"]My family is normally normal but one of my siblings is being hard on everyone. They get in trouble and cannot watch themself, so naturally, I have to watch her. And it pains me to hear my parents and other sibling are doing stuff, which is near stuff that I can do. But I can't I'm stuck watching the brat, who should be old enough to watch themself. But noooooooooooooooooooo

The choas of my sibling and all this innocently-found-innocent house arrest is driving me mad. To the point where I neglect myself and things I need to do. I can barely get out of bed and getting dressed is a complete chore. I don't think I could talk to a school consuluer because my sibling is pitied for being considered diasabled and it would sound like we're horrible people. That, plus it's not schooltime. But at the same time, it drives to the point where I want to jump of a brigde. All the stress and isolation combined with the all the shit the sibling gives me, not to mention I used to to cut, often can bring me to physical illness, like being dizzy or sick to the stomach.

I talk to friends online but one of them is offended by every little thing and the other has a low chance of caring.

One way I do cope with the anger is scratching either my arm or my face. Which isnt a good thing.[/size]
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Re: Isolated and ill - August 26th 2018, 01:07 PM

Sorry to hear about your sibling being difficult. It can definitely be frustrating and isolating, caring for a sibling who cannot help themselves much, more so if the rest of your family get to do other things, without you. Maybe you could talk with your family and get a rota set up so that you each take it in turns to help your sibling and you each get to have free time to do other things, rather than feel the burden is always on you?

When we feel depressed, it can be hard to do things like get out of bed or get dressed. We might lack energy or motivation. But the trick with depression is do to the opposite and actually do something, even if you don't feel like it. Doing something, no matter how small it may seem, can help to boost your mood a bit.

Having a disabled sibling is difficult. Of course your sibling never wanted to be disabled, and many people may have sympathy for your sibling. But you and your family are carers, and it can be difficult caring for a disabled person at times and you may have all sorts of emotions, including anger and frustration. That doesn't make you a bad person or a bad family....it just makes you human. So if you decide to talk to a school counsellor, they should be understanding. They won't judge you for having these feelings about your sibling or your situation. They are there to listen and support you.

I'm sorry to hear that the stress and isolation makes you feel unwell and brings up self-harming behaviours. I'm also saddened to hear that your friends don't seem too understanding. It can be difficult for others to understand if they have never had to look after a disabled relative. Maybe there are support groups, like young carers, in your area that you can join? There are many people who help to look after a disabled relative and it can be nice to be part of a group that does understand and that does support each other.

I'm also wondering what else you can do, instead of scratching, when you feel angry? Maybe punch a pillow, scream into a pillow, write things down on paper and then rip it up etc You may also want to check out our alternatives page for more ideas.

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