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Concerned for friend - February 23rd 2019, 12:04 PM

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I'm concerned for a friend - she's been down recently and has made previous atempts and came near to attempting yesterday. She has an emotionally manipulative (potentially abuisve) mother with bipolar and wants to move out but doesn't have the money to - she's unable to work alongside school. She won't speak to a doctor or counsellor and I wanted to speak to someone on her behalf but 1) don't want to betray her and 2) don't want to inflame the situation with her mum if they tell her.

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Re: Concerned for friend - February 25th 2019, 04:36 PM

Hey there,

I'm so glad you reached out to us here. I'm sorry to hear that your friend is struggling so much and is in such a bad situation; finances can definitely make it hard to get out of a toxic environment.

I know this might not be what you want to hear, but if your friend is talking about suicide, it's important that you let someone know ASAP. It's completely understandable that you want to respect her wishes and not make things worse for her at home, but try to remember that you're not betraying her. Things may be hard for her for a while if other people find out, but that's significantly better than her losing her life. The fact that she has attempted in the past and has talked about attempting again is even more worrying and is a sign that you should definitely take this seriously.

Things always have a chance of getting better as long as a person is alive, but there is no coming back from suicide. Since she won't see a counselor, I really urge you to talk to someone for her and be completely honest about everything she's told you. Even if she's upset at you for a little while, you will know that she is safe and will finally be getting the help she needs. If it helps, you can also tell the person you speak to about the situation with her mom and ask them to take that into consideration in deciding how to best help your friend.

This isn't something that you can (or should) handle alone. I know this is hard, but know that you're doing the best thing for your friend by speaking up.

Please feel free to write back if you have any other questions or concerns, or just need someone to talk to. We're always happy to help here.

Take good care,
Kylie

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