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I cry too easly - June 7th 2009, 12:54 AM

Okay, well, first thing, I cry too easly at what people say. Iv been bullied for about 5 years(8-13). Just now, this year, I found out what real friends were. I have a girlfriend for the first time, and she's my first real relationship. We havent been doing very well. Sometimes, when she's angry, it gets me upset and assuming that Im the problem, when im not. When she's gone, I get depressed, and I miss her a lot. I havent really smiled in a few days truthfully, and it bothers me.

I just want to find a way to smile, and not cry when she's gone. I need a way to be stronger. Any idea's?


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Re: I cry too easly - June 7th 2009, 03:48 AM

Update:

We had a talk a few moments ago, and I pretty much cried during it. She wants a "Serious" relationship. Note she's my first, and I dont know what to do in a serious relationship. She's tired of the "Puppy love" stage, and wants to get... More serious...


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Re: I cry too easly - June 7th 2009, 04:33 AM

Hey there,

I'm sorry to hear that you've had to deal with being bullied, but I'm glad that you've found friends recently. In any relationship, it's important that you feel like you have a voice - I'd say maybe try talking to the girl about how she's important to you, but that because your relationship with her is so important, you don't want to trifle with it by moving too fast before you were ready. Maybe try talking to her about what she thinks would be "more serious" and let her know whether or not you're comfortable with that. Remember, you and your opinion are a part of the relationship, too.

And when you're not with your girlfriend, maybe try to find things you like doing that make you smile, too - things that make you feel like the "you" you view yourself as when you're with your girlfriend. Or when negative thoughts come along, like when your girlfriend's upset, try taking a deep breath and countering them with more positive thoughts or at least the knowledge that "I don't have any reason to freak about yet."

Also, is there anyone like a parent or older relative, like a cousin, or a counselor you could try talking to about how you've been feeling? They might be able to help you think of some ideas, too.


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Re: I cry too easly - June 7th 2009, 02:23 PM

Thanks for your help [: I'll keep all of that in mind and try to do my best to what you said.


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Re: I cry too easly - June 7th 2009, 10:02 PM

Hey first off theres nothing wrong with crying at all. My best friend crys very easy all the time but I love her just the same, thought Id throw that out there.

Like Dancer said I'd diffently try talking with her. You dont have to do anything that your not comfortable doing remember that. First relationships are a big step especialy getting serious so dont feel bad if you want to take your time theres nothing wrong with that.

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Re: I cry too easly - June 7th 2009, 10:46 PM

Hey,

I just wanted to say that there is definitely nothing wrong with crying easily. Crying can be really helpful to let out your feelings when you are feeling upset. It is much better to cry than hold everything inside of you and feel worse. Some people are more sensitive and do get upset more easily but that doesn't make them weak or bad. I had a thought that perhaps because you have been bullied you are more sensitive to what people say so you do get upset more easily.

It seems like you are hard on yourself and when things go wrong with your girlfriend you blame it on yourself when it might not always be your fault. You need to be kind to yourself because it isn't always your fault and that you are not always the problem!

Tell your girlfriend how you feel about having a serious relationship. They key here is being open and honest with each other because that will help your relationship. I hope things work out between the two of you. Let us know what happens :-)
   
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