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HearMeSCREAM July 13th 2009 01:21 AM

Ongoing.
 
Heres the story,
I've dated this one girl, Kristy, for about 5 months. Nov - April. It was great. I never stopped loving her after we broke up. I told her, who I really was. I was someone I wasnt. Mind you this was an online relationship. Long distance. I know, I fucked up, I was stupid.

She got a boyfriend. I got a girlfriend. Everything was fine and dandy. In July, I broke up with my girlfriend. She yelled at me too much, and just never had a decent convorsation with her.

I cant get over Kristy. I still love her with all my heart. I feel so pathetic crying over her almost everyday. Its unhealthy, I know. I seem so happy around my friends, but until I get online and see her, I get happier, until she leaves to talk to her boyfriend, I become depressed. Just knowing, she doesnt, and never will want me back, breaks me completely.

She says im too young in general to be in a relationship. Im turning 15 this year, going into 8th grade(was held back). Anyways, I just dont know what to do with myself anymore. I want to cut, but I dont have the guts to.

Help me. Please?

AshlieRose July 13th 2009 03:00 AM

Re: Ongoing.
 
hey, so first of all, not all long distances relationships are as horrible as most people make them out to be. but i will say this.. being in one when you're so young isn't such an advantage because it's easier being older and able to fly n see eachother n such. but anyway, if i were in your shoes i'd avoid going in too deep cus well she has a boyfriend.. but talk with her and fill her in on how you're feeling and see how she handles it. if not so well you may wana just step back and be a good friend and maybe she'll realize just what she's missing. and to keep your mind busy and off of things like cutting listen to music, go on youtube and watch silly vids, and get out with some friends. that's my advice. hope it helps some. xx

lacrotix July 16th 2009 09:54 PM

Re: Ongoing.
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by HearMeSCREAM (Post 185046)
...I told her, who I really was. I was someone I wasnt. Mind you this was an online relationship. Long distance. I know, I fucked up, I was stupid.

It was not a mistake to reveal your true nature. If this girl doesn't like being with your true self, it doesn't do you any good to try to be something you are not. I think it was the best thing to see if this girl apprectiates who you really are. It saves a world of disappointment later on.


Quote:

Originally Posted by HearMeSCREAM (Post 185046)
I still love her with all my heart.

That's OK but you should move on. If this girl has no interest in you, you can't really get much from her in terms of help, advice, someone to talk to, and the such. Be like a clock that moves forward.


Quote:

Originally Posted by HearMeSCREAM (Post 185046)
She says im too young in general to be in a relationship.

I assume that this girl is older than you. Maybe she likes older men. Maybe she doesn't want you to be in a situation where you can blindly be taken advantage of. Both ways, it means she is not interested.


Quote:

Originally Posted by HearMeSCREAM (Post 185046)
I want to cut, but I dont have the guts to.

I'm glad you didn't. It's a good thing you can resist the urge. That shows good self-control, something that murderers lack.


I wish you the best of luck. I know you can do it. You even seeked help here and accepted that you had a problem, which is the first step to recovery.


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