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Back to the bad times - October 8th 2009, 03:05 AM

Lately I don't get that people say I'm pretty. I honestly could name like 6,000 reasons why they're wrong.

And it's bugging me so much. I didn't use to be like this. I was always like "Oh yeah, I have flaws but I'm still goregous" and now even when I get my hair done and my make up's good and I have new clothes I still feel gross. I don't usually feel this way.

I don't know why my self esteem is like plumetting like this but it's spreading to like all parts of my life. It's like everything I do I feel sick after and can't believe how bad I messed it up...even when I didn't.

I'm just feeling really crap lately and I went back to cutting so I'm getting worried. How do I get out of my slump guys?


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Re: Back to the bad times - October 8th 2009, 03:09 AM

First off, remember that cutting doesn't solve anything, it only worsens matters. If you feel the urge, remember there are tons of different ways to express yourself besides hurting yourself.

Have to talked to anyone about this? Your mom or dad, a counselor? It's not easy but having some support and help dealing with these feelings can really boost you up.

Finally, please remember this simple fact. You are beautiful, no matter what anyone says.
   
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Re: Back to the bad times - October 8th 2009, 03:18 AM

Aww, thanks Bethany. It's always nice to hear.

I know the cutting is bad. I'd been going a long time without doing it. And I talk with my counciler but I haven't had any sessions sinse like ..eh....April. So that might be a factor.

But I don't know...I just can figure out why I'm feeling this way. Or how I got to this low place (I mean like a month ago I was in like the peak of happiness). I need a better way to deal


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Re: Back to the bad times - October 8th 2009, 03:27 AM

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Aww, thanks Bethany. It's always nice to hear.

I know the cutting is bad. I'd been going a long time without doing it. And I talk with my counciler but I haven't had any sessions sinse like ..eh....April. So that might be a factor.

But I don't know...I just can figure out why I'm feeling this way. Or how I got to this low place (I mean like a month ago I was in like the peak of happiness). I need a better way to deal
Well, we have a huge list of alternative to help you. http://www.teenhelp.org/forums/f12-s...ves-self-harm/

And a few websites that cheer me up. :P
http://www.givesmehope.com/
http://mylifeisg.com/
http://mylifeisaverage.com/

I hope it helps a little.
   
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Re: Back to the bad times - October 8th 2009, 04:16 AM

Hey there,

I want you to know that you are beautiful no matter what. I know that sometimes we get these thoughts in our head telling us that this is not true but please try not to believe them. These thoughts do not have to rule your life and make you feel bad.

You know, something I have done in the past is make a list of all the good qualities I have and then put little stickies up all over with these good qualities; that way whenever I am feeling low or something I will see a sticky and think 'there is at least one good quality I have'. Do you think you can give it a try? You do not have to have a big list of things you like about yourself, in fact, it could be one thing but with time that one thing will grow to two and so on.

As for the cutting; I know how much it sucks to go back to that but it doesn't make you weak or a failure. You are just struggling right now and your body is telling you that cutting is the only thing that will help. However, with time that feeling will fade and you will be able to give up on the self-harm. In the meantime trying to use the alternatives might help because it might help you and your body realize that there are more positive coping mechanisms out there.

Please hang in there and if you ever want to talk feel free to pm me.

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