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I Feel So Depressed With Life. &***** - October 23rd 2009, 06:02 PM

I've never had a boyfriend, been kissed, or ever dated before & I'm 16, Im Tall & Thin, I feel so unloved & as if no one of the opposite sex is interested in me. I dress nice, I have style, I get compliements from other people such as how pretty I am, And how I have a nice figure. But no boys notice the beauty inside of me. I'm a nice easy girl to get alone with, and practically talks to mostly everyone. I have no real friends and my life feels so empty. I dont know what to do.

Over in the U.k we leave school at 16, & Im now in college, In a girls campus so thats no help. It hurts because I feel as if im the odd one out. I want to talk to my mom about this, I get so depressed and mostly cry sometimes, because Ive never experienced Love or ever had valentines card or anything like that.

I remember when I stepped out of my shell like in year 8 and actually wrote this boy a valentines card, and gave it to my friend to give it to him, & asked him out at the bottom of the card & He through it in the bin, I cried for a couple of days, it was so hard to overcome it I felt so bad and uncomfortable. From then I've been really shy. I really dont know whats wrong with me

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Re: I Feel So Depressed With Life. &***** - October 25th 2009, 11:41 AM

Ah, don't worry! I know exactly how you feel.

I think, almost everything you said reminded me of how I feel. I'm fifteen, never been in any relationship. I have friends, but none I actually call..."friends." And, probably worse than you, I'm shy and quiet and don't talk to a lot of people. And the "shy" thing kind of doesn't attract guys..so. And I'm in an all-girls school.

But really, don't let the thoughts of a relationship or having a boyfriend or experiencing love with someone bother you a lot. I have personally been there and done that. You sound like a really nice girl, and there will be that one guy who is perfect for you. You just have to wait a little bit more to find him. If a guy can't accept you for what you do and the efforts you put in, then he's not the right one for you.

And, don't worry about it, really. Just be yourself. Live life and take it one day at a time. Find one reason to be happy and get through the day every day. Finding the right guy or going into a relationship is something that time will give you.

So yes. Good luck! And just live life. Don't worry about what is meant to come. It'll come, eventually. All you need is a bit of patience and hope.


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Re: I Feel So Depressed With Life. &***** - October 25th 2009, 01:08 PM

hey,

that guy sounds like he needs a slap. He was rude to you and doesn't deserve you, Seriously...

Wow. I could only dream of getting a card from a girl. i'm 20 now and feel like i'd love a gf but one doesn't come along.

In fact, i'd like some friends too. I dont really have any.. You sound similar to me. So yea, if u wanna chat sometime, let me know
   
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Re: I Feel So Depressed With Life. &***** - October 25th 2009, 03:56 PM

Hi Dannielle,

Welcome to the forum.

I'm sorry to hear that you're having a hard time. I know many people that never had a boyfriend until they were in their 20's. The fact is, we all experience things at our own pace, and your time will come. Try not to think about not having a boyfriend at the moment; first work on building your confidence and overcoming your shyness.

People who are mean to you are just not worth the time spent thinking about them. I know it is hurtful, but try and focus your energy on something different: find your strengths and focus on what you're good at. Perhaps you could join a club to meet like-minded people. It's a great way to start socialising.

Don't try to be like other people, just be yourself. There's a quote that goes: "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind, don't matter, and those who matter, don't mind."

Do talk to your mom if you feel that you want to. If it's hard to do so, perhaps you could write her a letter and express yourself in that way. It's good to have someone to share your feelings with.

If you ever want to chat, feel free to message me.

Take care.

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Re: I Feel So Depressed With Life. &***** - October 25th 2009, 07:45 PM

Hi Dannielle.

I can completely understand how you feel!!
I didnt get a proper boyfriend untill I was 17.

Just by what you said you sound like such a down to earth, and wonderful young lady.
I know it hurts you that you feel "behind". But you are only 16, you have so much life left to find the 'one' There are plenty guys out there, and one is matched for you.

If you have confidence and people comment you, or your you feel your life is empty then why dont you do something with that.Try getting a job, or going to a college/6th form activity. Go out....meet new people. You said yourself, you sound like a real nice person, Im sure people would love to hang out with you.

The one thing you shouldnt do, is get depressed.
Depression is a harsh one, it can make you behave and think differently.
You really dont want to go down that hill.

One day your desire for love will be fulfilled by a man who loves you for you. Wether you be 16, or 26.
(Plus, it really isnt all that to have a boyfriend! Men *sigh

Love will come to you, dont worry, everybody has a soul mate.

I think you should talk to someone close to you, like your mum, or write her a letter explaining how you feel?

I hope things go well for you

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Re: I Feel So Depressed With Life. &***** - October 26th 2009, 02:39 AM

Hey, Welcome to TH.

I understand how you're feeling. Like you I'm a very shy person and have never had good luck in the relationship department. Guys just never seemed to like me in that way. I've always just been friends with guys. I'm a month from being 21 and had my first kiss just this past summer. And it definitely wasn't anything special like I always thought it'd be. (Was an act of depressed, lonely, drunkenness. Grossed me out actually.) And never had a guy hold my hand til the beginning of this month! Yeh, I kinda work backwards, haha.

Anyway, don't feel bad about not experiencing any of this yet. I know, it gets lonely, and maybe you feel like you "need" a guy to be happy. But please don't end up doing something you'll regret just to fit in or because you think it'll make everything better. Like getting drunk and kissing the nearest male. Not fun. Wait til you find the right guy. Someone who cares about you and who you care about. It may take a while, but trust me, it'll actually be worth it then.

You sound like a really nice person, and I know there's guys out there who would love you. (maybe there's already some interested but you just don't realize it.) Don't stress over it so much. Most good things happen unexpectedly.

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Re: I Feel So Depressed With Life. &***** - October 26th 2009, 03:18 AM

Hey there!

I love posts like these because they remind me so much of myself...as they do other people as well (obviously, from the plethora of comments )

Absolutely nothing is wrong with you. I promise. I literally just turned 17 on October 2nd and just recently got my first boyfriend and had my first kiss. I felt like such a freak considering all of my friends have gone much further. It made me think that something was wrong with me...but the fact of the matter is, nothing is...just like there is nothing wrong with you. The 'right' guy just hasn't come along yet.

I know it's hard sometimes, but try to just enjoy being single. Flirt a little, hang out with friends, and just have fun. Don't let that note get you down. I asked a guy out on a date last year (wayyyyyy out of my comfort zone) and he rejected me quite blatantly...and what do you know? Now he has feelings for me back. Too bad I've moved on

Any guy who would get you would be super-lucky. Don't ever forget how wonderful you are. Absolutely nothing is wrong with you. It'll all happen in due time.

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