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What should I say? - November 11th 2009, 07:40 PM

I'm thinking of going to the doctors. But i don't know if I actually have depression or not. And I know I'll get myself in the mindset of "yes, I'm going to get this sorted because it's a huge problem", but by the next morning I will think it's the most rediculous idea and I'll back out.

But if I do make it to the doctors, what the hell do I say??? "Hi doc, I'm suicidal!" hardly seems the best opening line... And i know that I'll freeze up and not talk and not say how I'm exactly feeling... And I bet you anything that I'll end up crying.

And what should I expect the doctor to say or do? Are they going to make me talk to someone else? Because I'd rather suffer in silence than have to talk about it to some 'councellor'.

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Re: What should I say? - November 11th 2009, 09:05 PM

Hey,

I'm sorry you're feeling like this lately but you have the right idea about going to a doctor. I know that it's scary as crap to think about, especially since you don't know exactly what to expect but you will be ok. Don't allow yourself to talk yourself out of it; get a close friend to come with you so you can't just forget about it.
When I went, it was awkward at first but something that really helped me was making a list of my symptoms. ex; suicidal thoughts, insomnia, general depression, loss of appetite, etc etc etc
That way you can either read off your list and know what to say, or just hand it to the doctor. There's nothing to worry about there. Another thing to think about and maybe write down is what you want out of this. If you don't like the idea of a counselor, what would you like the doctor to do to help you? Keep in mind that most antidepressants are prescribed in ADDITION to therapy, not just by themselves; they're not the fix. The combination has proved most effective.
If you've never been in therapy before, I can understand why you'd be skeptical about it but please don't suffer in silence. Your doctor can most likely recommend a person or two to go to, and you're perfectly welcome to talk to the therapist first and decide if you feel comfortable around them. The important thing is that you tell someone what's going on in your head so that they can help. Staying quiet will do nothing for you.
I've been in therapy for about 6 months now, and it was hard at first but it started to help alot when I actually participated. Take care and don't give up...PM me if you ever wanna talk.


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Re: What should I say? - November 11th 2009, 11:15 PM

Hey there,

First of all, even considering to confront your doctor is a big step towards feeling better. I know sometimes it seems silly, hard and a bunch of other things at the same time, but it is a huge weight lifted, once you bite your tongue and go through with it. Coming forward isn't easy, and I'm not trying to portray that it is, but don't be too worked up about this either. The first day of confronting someone usually doesn't go too fast. Meaning, they don't put you next to a counselor the second you mention depression or anything of that sort.

When you're preparing to tell your doctor why you made the appointment, try to plan out the conversation. Meaning, go through questions and your answers and re-run your emotions over in your head. Make sure to say key strong feelings that you think are best to share. You don't need to spill everything, but it is good to allow the doctor to have a sense of what is wrong, so he/she can decide a proper plan of action.

When I first went to talk to my doctor, he asked me why I made my appointment and I said nothing more than, "Something inside me feels wrong and I'm just not who I feel comfortable being anymore." He got me to expand with more questions. Remember that he is supposed to ask specific questions to keep things going too, it's not all you. It's a team effort. That being said, be as honest as you can. My doctor also brought out a depression test to determine how "severe" I was. It's really nothing too professional if your doctor does this. Everyone is different. He/she may refer you to a specialist, or they might give you medication if you admit to thinking you might need it.

It isn't as bad as you might think it is. Basically, it's the beginning to a game plan. You both can work hand in hand in deciding the best course of action for helping. If that means speaking to a counselor, I would advise that. They are helpful and you'll have much more time to speak and open up. You'll notice a big different between a counselor and your regular doctor. Don't be shy to tell them you're in uncomfortable to talking with someone etc. This is all about you and what helps you most, so be honest and don't worry. There isn't anything wrong with how you feel.

If you need anything at all, feel perfectly free to PM me and I'll help you if I can : ). I did the whole doctor thing, we all start somewhere. It's hard, but I think it can grow to be worth it.

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Re: What should I say? - November 14th 2009, 04:48 PM

See, now I've convinced myself out of it... I never have time to go to the doctors when I'm in one of the low moods : /


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