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father commited suicide, inlove with best friend - March 30th 2010, 04:59 AM

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were to start? well last monday I woke up to my dad, dead. he had what seemed to be moderate-severe depression, but it seemed like it could be fixed, at least to the point were you could live a normal life. over the past few months he wasnt himself at all. none of us ever expected this to happen, even tho it'd seem so obvious to an outsider(similar to 9/11. even tho the buildings were on fire, not one person EVER expected them both to collapse the way that they did(similar to how my dad "collapsed"))

so i've been dealing with that, i have a best friend named L, and she is really my best friend even tho she is a female. while she has a boyfriend, i think i am truly in love with her, to the best of my ability. she recently told me that i hug and hold her too much, and i was able to convince her that its just the passing of my dad causing it. idk, its really tough to see her with her bf anymore, and i started an arugement with her tonight over it. not only do i have to deal with my dads death, the fact that he decided to commit suicide, but i have to deal with this beautiful, imo perfect, complete girl being teased infront of me EVERY day.
   
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Re: father commited suicide, inlove with best friend - March 30th 2010, 12:57 PM

hey hun, i'm so so sorry about your dad... *hugs* everyone takes time to grieve, so it's normal that all these thoughts are just cramping your brain and that the world just seems darker..
please talk to someone... do you have a relative maybe that you can trust and talk to? or a school counsellor? it's really hard and almost impossible to deal with your situation alone. there're people who've gone through the suicide of a close one and there're really those who had moved on with help...
i suggest that you tell your best fren that you're just not in the best of mood and would really love her support.. try not to hug/hold her so much if she doesn't like it though. it's easier to go through this with a good fren. (:
take care hun, and pm me anytime..



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Re: father commited suicide, inlove with best friend - April 1st 2010, 11:46 PM

Hey there. I would say that perhaps you should take a break from your friend also. Just spend less time with her because emotions are very strong especially coupled with emotions about girls. These emotions are just too strong to handle alone.

So i suggest that you just take a break from your best friend, I don't mean you should completely cutoff all, communication, but just take a break so that the emotions don't get too much for you to handle.


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Re: father commited suicide, inlove with best friend - April 2nd 2010, 12:08 AM

First of all, I'm really sorry that your dad died. I know how difficult it is to lose a parent and how tough things are for you right now. I encourage you to talk to someone. Talk to anyone whom you trust and you know will listen to you and understand. Sometimes going to counseling will help you with your loss as well.
I agree with Jacksonian. I think that for some time you should take a break from your friend. You don't need anymore hurt in your life or to have anything added onto the pressure you're already dealing with. Talk to her every once and while if you feel like you need to. I think that you can bring her fully back into your life when you are past at least some of this grief caused by your father's death.
Take care.


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