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I don't know what to do anymore - April 20th 2010, 01:21 AM

I used to think it was nothing, but now its pretty clear that i have a problem. I am constantly depressed and I have thought about killing myself everyday for the past year and a half. I've considered talking to someone but I'm afraid they'll think i'm looking for attention or start to freak out. I can't tell my parents anything, or they'll never look at me the same again. I want to talk to a counselor, but i'm afraid they'll tell my parents. I don't know what to do. Everyday I fake a smile just so no one will worry. Everyone tells me I worry them and make me feel more guilty than I already am. Sometimes, I don't even have a reason for being depressed. Though, recently its because everyones leaving me. I feel alone and like theres no hope. I don't know what i should do..
   
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Re: I don't know what to do anymore - April 20th 2010, 02:02 AM

well u came to a good place heer and i feel ur pain of being alone and scared to tell ur parints abaut haw u feel im the same way u just have to stay stong and go to the peopl u trust for suport u can trust me and dont be afrade to be my frend or pm me

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Re: I don't know what to do anymore - April 20th 2010, 02:15 AM

Hello there,
I have dealt with a depression for around two years. I know for a fact that it can definitely be very hard on a person.

I don't think there is any reason that your parents would think of you any differently if you were to tell them. If they are good parents they will care about your best interests and help you feel better. You should also be able to be honest with your friends about it, because if they are really your friends, they will care about you.

But you aren't alone here. Your life is important and you still got a lot to live for. You will recover from this soon enough, even if you don't think you will. I know I did, mostly.
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Re: I don't know what to do anymore - April 20th 2010, 02:52 AM

I try really hard to tell myself that I have alot to live for. Thats why I want to talk to someone. I know my parents care about me but i just get the feeling they'll be disappointed in me if they found out I felt this way.
   
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Re: I don't know what to do anymore - April 20th 2010, 03:19 AM

Your parents should not be disappointed in you for feeling the way you do. They would be proud of you for telling them how you really feel and that you want help dealing with it. If you did tell them then I am sure you would feel a bit better.

There are also anonymous hotlines you could call which are staffed by professionals, then you wouldn't have to tell anyone you know.
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Re: I don't know what to do anymore - April 20th 2010, 10:35 PM

I want to tell them, but I'm just too scared. And those hotlines freak me out.. always have.
   
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Re: I don't know what to do anymore - April 20th 2010, 11:14 PM

You are only giving yourself tension and making things worse by holding it in like this. Take a deep breath, talk to yourself in the mirror as if you were saying what you wanted to say to your parents. Keep doing it until you have figured out just what you want to say. Then when you feel comfortable and the time is right, go ahead and do it.

Do you wish to talk about what it is about the hotlines that freaks you out?
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Re: I don't know what to do anymore - April 21st 2010, 02:30 AM

I don't know. I don't really like being asked all those questions and i'm always afraid they'll find out where i am because of my phone number and they'll come try to get me help. I don't know why I think that, but I do.
   
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Re: I don't know what to do anymore - April 21st 2010, 03:26 AM

That is a reasonable concern. Firstly, if the hotlines were to trace the phone numbers and come after the people calling, then they would have a very untrustworthy reputation. That would be a major breach of your privacy rights and the conditions of anonymity in which you are calling under. I have never heard of such a thing happening. Secondly, you are only obligated to talk about what you want to talk about, not what others want you to talk about. If they are asking a whole bunch of questions then I think they are trying to get the full picture so they can determine how to best help you. If you don't want to be scrutinized in this way then they should just listen if you tell them. So I think it is the easiest way to get professional advice without anyone knowing.
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Re: I don't know what to do anymore - April 21st 2010, 03:30 AM

I know how you feel. This will be my 8th year of dealing with my depression. Have you told your parents about other things that have bothered you besides the depression? Did they seem like they wanted to help? If so then im sure they would understand if you went to them with this.

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Re: I don't know what to do anymore - April 22nd 2010, 11:58 PM

i feel worse and worse everyday. I know I can't keep it to myself, but i don't want to tell anyone either..
   
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Re: I don't know what to do anymore - April 23rd 2010, 12:04 AM

I think that right now the main thing that is making this worse is that you keep worrying about the consequences of talking to someone about this. For months when I had my problems which prompted my depression I had issues with the counselors perpetuating the situation so I held it in and just made myself feel worse and even suicidal. You just need to get up on your feet and just tell the right person in the heat of the moment. Then you would be finally getting on the path to recovery.
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Re: I don't know what to do anymore - April 23rd 2010, 12:15 AM

i feel the same, i can relate to this in every single way. but eventually i started to learn that god keeps us here for a reason. the reason isn't always clear at first but it'll be later on in life maybe. you have to let urself believ that hope is real no matter what & better things do exist. its hard at first but attempting show'd me what im worth, everyone's worth world. but the first place to start believing is in urself
   
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Re: I don't know what to do anymore - April 23rd 2010, 01:36 AM

I am unsure if anyone else has suggested this, but you could write down all your feelings and give it to your parents or someone else that cares about you and you wouldn't have to be there when they read it. Hotlines only trace calls if you have a specific plan to kill yourself, or they feel you are in real danger of harming yourself. I know this because I work as a Firefighter, and have some emergency medical training, they even have a part in the book about handling psych. crisis. but don't be scared of any of that because anything everyone would be doing is trying to help you because they care. Feel free to P.M me if you want to talk, I have been through it all, psych hospitals, having to first tell someone how I felt ect.


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