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School Counsellors - November 7th 2010, 02:06 AM

I'm new here but I wanted some advice; if I wanted to approach a school counsellor, how would I go about it? Obviously, I get an appointment etc, but how do I bring up the subject? I'm not a very confidant person nor very good at explaining concepts, let alone complicated emotions such as those to do with thoughts of suicide or self harm.
Also, I don't want people I know to find out. Maybe its paranoia in part but I have seen sufficient evidence that they would treat me differently if they knew I was (still) having problems with self-harm. Does anyone know if schools generally contact parents/inform teachers when students ask for help from a school counsellor in the UK?
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Re: School Counsellors - November 7th 2010, 02:59 AM

At my school, they won't inform your parents unless/if you're suicidal or are going to hurt yourself...but I don't know about the UK. Maybe you could tell the councellor that you don't want anyon else to know about it.
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Re: School Counsellors - November 7th 2010, 04:46 AM


First of all, let me welcome you to TeenHelp since you said that you're a little bit newer. I'm Kayla, and I'm very glad that you decided to become a member and join us here. (:

I do not reside in the UK, I live in the United States but I know that over here, anything that you say to your school counselor can not be given out to anyone and they are not allowed to say anything to your parents unless they believe you are a threat to yourself, or others around you.

I know for a fact that they can not tell other students about what you're going through. Staff members, I'm not sure. I think they're able to tell staff members to look out for you and things like that but I don't think they would tell them what you're going through.

As far as parents though, I think they would only tell your parents if they believed that you were suicidal or in danger from yourself. Last year, I told my school counselor about my self-harm and he didn't even tell my parents but that was because we already built a trusting friendship.

I think that if you're so worried about you, you should definitely go in there and straight up ask them what the regulations are and what they will or would not tell your parents. You don't even have to tell them what's going on, you could just ask:

"Where would the line be crossed at from talking to you about some issues before you could contact my parents?" or something vague like that.

I do encourage you to talk to your school counselor though if you're feeling suicidal at all, or if you ever feel like harming yourself because that's not the answer.

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