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Show them I care and try and help 13 86.67%
Give them space 2 13.33%
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What do you do? - July 11th 2011, 03:59 AM

I was watching That 70's Show, and a good question came up.
When someone is depressed, do you show them you care and try and help them, or do you give them space?
What do you guys tend to do?


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Re: What do you do? - July 11th 2011, 04:04 AM

I like to do both; but mostly help by showing them that I love them


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Re: What do you do? - July 11th 2011, 07:04 AM

I agree with the above. I would do both. I would both support them and give them space as they needed. I know from my own experiences that while it's nice to have people tell you they care, there comes a point when it just becomes too overbearing.
   
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Re: What do you do? - July 11th 2011, 07:06 AM

Depends on the person, but I usually show them that I'm there but if that doesn't work, give them space and let them come to me.


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Re: What do you do? - July 11th 2011, 08:18 AM

I usually get closer to them, because I've found that even if I can't give advice or they aren't searching for advice, it can still help them to have someone to vent to when needed, and someone who can cheer them up with quirkiness or mild humor.


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Re: What do you do? - July 11th 2011, 10:21 AM

I think it depends on the person for me also. But I usually tell the person that I care about/love them and that I will always be there for them and then I see where that leads to. If I feel like they need to continue hearing that I'm going to be there for them and try my best to help, I will continue to tell them. But if I feel like they'd rather be left alone to think then I'll leave them alone.
   
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Re: What do you do? - July 11th 2011, 10:37 AM

If I find out someone is depressed I initially try to help, if they express that they need to be alone, I'll go ahead and give them the space, as long as they know that I'm here if they ever decide they need to talk/hang out etc


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Re: What do you do? - July 11th 2011, 10:58 AM

Depends on the person and situation.


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