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My mom saw... - July 24th 2012, 07:20 PM

My mom saw the scars on my arms. She saw I was going to wear a long sleeved shirt in public and she ordered me to change, then she examined my arm. I thought for sure I was busted, but she asked me why did I do it. At first I was scared and stuttering, but she kept saying why would I paint my arm, tattoo my arm, draw on my arm. I was confused until I realized she honestly didn't think they were self harm scars. I went along with it, but then I talked to an adult about it and she told me I need to tell her or she'll never trust me. I don't know if I want to, because she freaked out just thinking I had drew on my arms, plus I don't know if I want to stop. I don't know if she could help me or not, and I don't know if she's understand. What should I do?
   
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Re: My mom saw... - July 24th 2012, 08:01 PM

I agree with the adult that you spoke with, I think you should bring this up to your mom and let her know. Though she could have honestly not thought they were self harm scars, she might be assuming something by this point. Being that she already knows something is going on, you would be better off just bringing this up to her and letting her know. If I were you, I would sit your mom down and bring up the day where she thought you drew on your arm. She also asked why you would tattoo your arm, which shows she sees that what you did went under the skin. So she may have more of an idea than you realize. I would bring that day up and then calmly explain to her that you just want to be honest with her and from there explain that they are SH scars. I would just be as honest as possible with her because then she will know she can trust you in the future. Yes, she could be upset but in the long run, it is better to have her upset in the beginning than calmer and not having any idea of what's going on. If you need someone to talk to or need some extra support, feel free to send me a PM or VM and let me know. We're here for you. You can do this.

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Re: My mom saw... - July 25th 2012, 03:07 AM

It seems that she is getting closer to figuring it out, so you should probably tell her before the whole situation blows up. It will be easier if you just came out and told her than if she were to realize what's been going on. She's going to take it bad at first, I think pretty much everybody who hasn't been through it does. She'll need time to process everything but in the end it will probably make you feel better that you aren't hiding such a big secret from her. Hopefully this helps some.


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Re: My mom saw... - July 25th 2012, 06:22 AM

I really wish my mom would have reacted the same way.

When my mom say, she shoved me away, then ran to her room crying. My whole family saw.
I followed her and we talked. It didnt help, she didnt do anything about it.


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Re: My mom saw... - July 25th 2012, 08:36 AM

I know some people wont agree with me on this but depending on your relationship with your mom is how I would decide to tell her or not, i would have preferred never telling my mom but quite honestly she drove me to it but the thing is what is your relationship like with your mom? if you think she will understand it would be a good idea to tell her but if you honestly think or know that it will just make things worse then maybe you should maybe consider not telling her, but if this is a bigger problem then you think you can handle go to her for some help. I know it's a lot to think about but I hope you make the best choice for you.
ps she might have already figured it out...
   
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Re: My mom saw... - July 25th 2012, 01:26 PM

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I know some people wont agree with me on this but depending on your relationship with your mom is how I would decide to tell her or not, i would have preferred never telling my mom but quite honestly she drove me to it but the thing is what is your relationship like with your mom? if you think she will understand it would be a good idea to tell her but if you honestly think or know that it will just make things worse then maybe you should maybe consider not telling her, but if this is a bigger problem then you think you can handle go to her for some help. I know it's a lot to think about but I hope you make the best choice for you.
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I agree with this. But unless the relationship with your mom is bad, I think you should try to tell her about it since she's mostly figured it out. If you decide not to talk to her, maybe you should try to talk to someone else that's close to you and can help you overcome this. Good luck!


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