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Just wanna do it. - July 8th 2013, 01:05 PM

I've been SH free for 3 weeks at 2 days but I really have the urge to do it again. I feel like it will help me now instead of making me feel worse. I have the blade to do it with but theres just something stopping me.. For now. It mostly because when I burned myself, my best mate cried when she saw it. It hurts me to see her like that but I hate what she's doing to herself as well. Just gonna see what happens and if I start again, I start.
   
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Re: Just wanna do it. - July 8th 2013, 04:30 PM

Hey there, Megan!

Firstly, three weeks SH free is excellent! It sounds like you've been very strong for a while now, and you should give yourself a lot of credit for that.

I'm sure you know this, but, as much as cutting can give you temporary relief, it's not worth it. It's gonna make you feel worse after said temporary relief has passed. And you should think of your best mate as well, do you want her to be upset if you do something? You should make an effort to stay strong for her. I'd advise you check out the list of Alternatives to Self Harm and try and find something that helps you and keeps you safe from hurting yourself.

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Re: Just wanna do it. - July 8th 2013, 06:15 PM

Hiya Megan! As Gareth said, 3 weeks is wonderful! What I say, is keep your goal in mind. 3 weeks is a long time! And I think you can push yourself to go another three weeks. I would also suggest, maybe throwing away the blade? Because if it sits right in front of you, you are going to have urges. I say, get rid of the blades and maybe talk to your best mate about how you are feeling right now. And remember, urges are only temporary. Stay strong, lovely!


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Re: Just wanna do it. - July 8th 2013, 08:39 PM

First of all, 3 weeks is fantastic! If you can do that, you're strong enough to keep fighting. You may not know exactly what is keeping you from cutting, but try to hold onto that feeling. There is a part of you that recognizes you shouldn't self harm and you don't deserve to be hurt, and that's wonderful. The urges may be strong, but they are temporary, so try to distract yourself when they get bad. You can do this.
   
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Re: Just wanna do it. - July 8th 2013, 11:04 PM

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I've been SH free for 3 weeks at 2 days but I really have the urge to do it again. I feel like it will help me now instead of making me feel worse. I have the blade to do it with but theres just something stopping me.. For now. It mostly because when I burned myself, my best mate cried when she saw it. It hurts me to see her like that but I hate what she's doing to herself as well. Just gonna see what happens and if I start again, I start.
My name is JJ, I used to self half for a long while, almost a year and I can see where you are coming from. I had serious depression and hated who I was all together. So after a while, I saw my friends start to do the same thing I was doing. I got really frustrated over this. I tried telling them to stop because they are extremely valuable to me, and it's like they are breaking themselves down all of the time. I tried telling them this, but I couldn't because it would make me a hypocrite because I was going around doing the same thing. How I changed this extreme situation is, first I relapsed and soon learned that you need to throw away what you can that you can cut yourself with. Because if you throw away your blade, when you get upset you will look for something else. Narrow it down as much as you can. The next thing I did, is when I got an urge to cut or harm myself, I would try doing something to get my mind off of what made my upset, and do something I enjoyed (Not cutting, or harming wise). I just kept doing that, and I started to find people I knew that I could trust with ANYTHING, and I started to tell them everything that happened, and what was happening. After that, my urges stopped and I've been free of that for about two or three years now.

P.S. : No matter how bad the urge gets.. because it will get bad, don't do it. Trust me, it's worth it. Also, I found God and that inspired me even more to stop because me quitting self harm, was making him very happy.

Thanks! I hope this helped! If you ever need ANYTHING at all, just send me a PM
   
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