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Hiding scars/cuts. - July 9th 2013, 03:13 AM

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So I have a wedding coming up in about a week and a half or so (my sister's wedding), and it is in Mexico.

Now I am one of the most heat intolerant people you could ever meet. But I also have scars on my arm from a while ago, but they are very very noticeable (most people think they are new) and are kind of still grooved.

I have told my sisters that I used to hurt myself, but they have yet to see the scars. I'm going to a concert with them this coming weekend, and we're all wearing matching T-shirts so I guess they will see it then (Should I cover them up though?).

My sister specifically bought me two dresses, sleeveless, and she knows that I've cut. so I'm assuming this is her saying that she really doesn't care if they show? I'm honestly not sure.

Should I text her about it? I don't want to stress her out more before her wedding. Should I ask my other sister about it?

I just need advice because I'm so nervous and stressed for this. I have a newer cut from a few days ago that is taking it's sweet old time healing (it's pretty bad so I can't blame it).

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Re: Hiding scars/cuts. - July 9th 2013, 04:18 AM

For the concert, if you're comfortable with people seeing your scars, then go for it. If not you could always wear a long-sleeve shirt under your t-shirt. As for the wedding, I think you should probably text either of your sisters and ask about it. There shouldn't be a problem with your scars showing, but it is a more formal setting, so it's probably a good idea to ask. For the newer cut, you might want to bandage it, and you can always put makeup on your arms to make the scars lighter and less visible.
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Re: Hiding scars/cuts. - July 9th 2013, 04:51 AM

Hey there,

If you feel comfortable letting people see your scars at the concert then you shouldn't cover them up. I think that covering up scars is a personal decision and it is based solely on how comfortable a person is with having other people see your scars.

As for your sisters wedding, you could always take her aside, if she lives close by, and show her your arms and then ask her if she would be okay with you going sleeveless at her wedding. Honestly though I don't think your family is going to care about the scars you have as much as they are going to care about your well being. I have been to two weddings and have had to deal with letting people see my scars and neither of my brothers or their wives cared about the scars, you know? All they cared about was having me at the wedding and making sure that I had as good of a time as I could.

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Re: Hiding scars/cuts. - July 10th 2013, 02:54 AM

Thank you so much guys I ended up texting her and she was like "why would it bother me? It your body. You said you're recovering, so there's nothing else you can do but go with the flow."

I'm still really worried about them bothering her though. I can walk in public just fine without covering them (well not just fine, but I can do it) but when it comes to being around my family I'm like "no I'm totally not sweating under a sweat-shirt heh"

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