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Cant stop...help - October 9th 2013, 04:50 AM

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so, i went 40 days clean a week or two ago, then relapsed, and relapsed hard! I mean, i went from having a few scars, to having a bunch of cuts on my upper arm and legs.
i want to stop, but at the same time, I don't because then i have no way of coping, and I know if is top cutting, then i will just turn to something worse, like drinking, or smoking, or drugs. (which ive kind of gotten into lately.)


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Re: Cant stop...help - October 9th 2013, 06:45 AM

I'm so proud to hear that you went 40 days without cutting. Wow!!

That is such an accomplishment!! Well done!!!

Now although you have cut yourself after going so long without doing so, this is ok. Do not feel upset. Relapse does not mean failure. Failure is the act of not trying. But you did try. You managed to get to 40 days!!!!

Just think how far you can get next time!

I'm a cutter also and I know how hard it is to completly stop. I don't know whether this will work for you but have you tried rubber/elastic bands on your wrists and snap them?? It inflicts the same kind of pain just without leaving scars.

Anyway sweetie, you are doing really well, so don't give up. Happiness is just round the corner. Hold on!!!

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Re: Cant stop...help - October 9th 2013, 03:11 PM

Hey Jacob,

Going for 40 days without cutting is huge, congrats! This, itself says that you want to recover and you're interested in stopping. Instead of turning to something more harmful, maybe turn to something healthier. Like a sport, or putting together puzzles. Or volunteering, or hiking. Something, anything that you can do to not only keep you occupied but to keep you distracted when you feel an urge.


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Re: Cant stop...help - October 9th 2013, 07:09 PM

You need to tell yourself that you are too important to harm yourself. I know its hard to find your self worth and you think that hurting yourself will take away the pain. It will help for a moment but will just keep coming back. You have to tell yourself "I AM IMPORTANT, I DO MATTER, I AM TOO IMPORTANT TO HARM MYSELF". Sometimes we have to make ourselves not hurt ourselves. Try and think about things you enjoy and how if you keep doing this you may never be able to do this again. Please try this I know there is a light at the end of the tunnel for you and everyone that goes through this.
   
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Re: Cant stop...help - October 9th 2013, 08:08 PM

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I'm so proud to hear that you went 40 days without cutting. Wow!!

That is such an accomplishment!! Well done!!!

Now although you have cut yourself after going so long without doing so, this is ok. Do not feel upset. Relapse does not mean failure. Failure is the act of not trying. But you did try. You managed to get to 40 days!!!!

Just think how far you can get next time!

I'm a cutter also and I know how hard it is to completly stop. I don't know whether this will work for you but have you tried rubber/elastic bands on your wrists and snap them?? It inflicts the same kind of pain just without leaving scars.

Anyway sweetie, you are doing really well, so don't give up. Happiness is just round the corner. Hold on!!!

Best of luck
Thanks, and yeah 40 days it was hard, so i relapsed. Anways, as for your rubber bands idea, i tried that,and I go out of control, and end up doing it til i bleed or bruise. So, maybe I should take that suggestion off the table?


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Re: Cant stop...help - October 9th 2013, 08:16 PM

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Hey Jacob,

Going for 40 days without cutting is huge, congrats! This, itself says that you want to recover and you're interested in stopping. Instead of turning to something more harmful, maybe turn to something healthier. Like a sport, or putting together puzzles. Or volunteering, or hiking. Something, anything that you can do to not only keep you occupied but to keep you distracted when you feel an urge.
Thanks. And well, it's not like i can just stop and not turn to something more harmful. Ive tried quitting cutting cold turkey, and then i get into smoking, or drinking. (like recently ive been drinking a wine bottle a night)
As for sports, im not a huge people person, so thats out, puzzles are too easy for me. (I solved a 1000 piece in a few hours) Volunteering, again...not a people person, plus i tried it...it wasnt my thing. Hiking eh? Thatd be nice...if i didnt live in the prairies. (its so flat here, we consider a speedbump a hill)
So, yeah. I geuss I coud try exercising again (although last time i did, i did it just to over exercise and injure my body (messed up my shoulder and back last time)


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Re: Cant stop...help - October 10th 2013, 01:39 AM

Well, I didnt't mean necessarily those particular alternatives, just anything else that serves as a distraction. Anything will work, for the most part.


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Re: Cant stop...help - October 10th 2013, 04:17 AM

40 days is a great accomplishment, so you should be really proud of yourself for that. I know you relapsed, but everyone messes up sometimes. What you need to do is make sure it doesn't happen again because you are better than that, and you wouldn't have made it 40 days if you weren't. The best thing I find that helps is a distraction. Keep yourself busy. I understand what depression does to you, I do. But you need to push yourself and find something that makes you happy. When you're distracted, you find yourself thinking less about what you're depressed about and focus on something else. Believe me, just try it. Literally anything. EXERCISE is key. But coming from a personal experience, DO NOT use alc to help you. I used to smoke weed to help my anxiety but it's not for everyone and I'm not going to tell you to do that if you feel like it won't help. When you feel the urge to relapse, you need to stay strong and stay true to yourself. You will get through this.
   
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Re: Cant stop...help - October 10th 2013, 05:39 AM

Quitting even a day for someone is a huge effort and acomplishment. 40 days is a long time and relapsing is someties inevitable. Don't let it however make you feel like quitting is impossible.
Every attempt to quit will help set you up for quitting for good. Maybe it'll take a year but if you keep trying you'll get there one day.

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Re: Cant stop...help - October 10th 2013, 07:38 AM

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Thanks, and yeah 40 days it was hard, so i relapsed. Anways, as for your rubber bands idea, i tried that,and I go out of control, and end up doing it til i bleed or bruise. So, maybe I should take that suggestion off the table?
It was just a suggestion, maybe take that out of the list ideas. I dont want you to hurt yourself more.

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Re: Cant stop...help - October 11th 2013, 03:47 AM

Yeah, sorry if i was harsh...havent gotten enough sleep lately. Anyways, i shall check out the list of alt's and see what I can find to occupy myself.


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