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Question I'm sorry,I don't know why but I'm sorry - November 5th 2013, 12:35 PM

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Since me and my friend and his girl moved in together,I felt so happy,the one night we were relaxing,watching tv and out of the blue he saw my cuts on my arms,he then told me that he doesn't want to see new cuts again,I made a promise............. I broke that promise,after two months I started again without him knowing,now I'm so afraid of what he will think and do when he sees my new cut,I'm so under stress every day since I started again cutting,I just want him to know that I'm sorry that I broke my promise and cutted again,but how do I tell him,I don't want to lose my best friend,he has always been there for me........what can I do?
   
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Re: I'm sorry,I don't know why but I'm sorry - November 5th 2013, 02:50 PM

Juan,

First of all, your friend cannot expect you to just 'stop'. If he had any relative background of self-harm he would realise that it's a learning process - a gradual one at that. You cannot simply stop cutting immediately, you ARE going to relapse at one point, everyone does.

My advice to you would be to tell him straight, rather than waiting for him to find out himself, and if he's a real friend he should understand what you are going through, how you feel and why it happened. You just need to wait for your opportunity, preferably away from his girlfriend assuming that she doesn't know or understand anything that is going on in your life.

I hope all goes well for you and goodluck!

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Re: I'm sorry,I don't know why but I'm sorry - November 5th 2013, 06:14 PM

Hi jack,how are you?thank you for your time reading my posts,yes,my friend does have a relative background of selfharm,I will use the advice you have given to me and go and talk to him about what I'm going thru right now,I know its just stupid and simple things,but its affecting me on the inside......thanx again
   
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Re: I'm sorry,I don't know why but I'm sorry - November 5th 2013, 09:22 PM

Oh, honey, I know exactly what you mean!
The best thing you can do is just be honest with him. I know it's hard. I was terrified to talk to anyone about my cutting, but to be completely honest with you, I'm so glad I did! Just carefully bring it up, and let it go from there. Remember: it's okay to cry! Just let it out, and he will understand, I promise!
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Re: I'm sorry,I don't know why but I'm sorry - November 5th 2013, 09:41 PM

Hi amanera,thank you for the advice,ill try to bring it up,almost every night when I arrive home from work,I'm always happy but he can see that something is wrong or bothering me and he told me that if there's a problem,I must tell him,I really want to talk to him but just don't know how,that's the problem I have when it comes to me telling someone the problems I'm having and the things I'm going thru,I just play that happy person all day long untill I go to bed,then all the thoughts are coming back,but I hope that he will understand and help me to get thru this....thanx
   
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Re: I'm sorry,I don't know why but I'm sorry - November 6th 2013, 07:43 PM

Hi again Juan,

You say you have trouble telling your friend what's wrong? I suggest that if you can't tell him face-to-face, that you write your thoughts down onto paper, just as if you were venting everything out, so he can understand the severity of what you're going through.

Another option is to write him a letter, saying exactly what you want him to know, and just put the letter in his room, or somewhere that he can find it easily. Just leave a little note in the letter saying something along the lines of "I've been trying to tell you this for a long time, however I've never had the courage to do so but...".

I assure you that everything is going to be okay, it's a long journey but I know you can do it!

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