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Exclamation can you help me?I feel like commiting suicide - December 1st 2013, 07:00 AM

Hey guys,I have a problem although its my own problem but you all know I self harm so now the problem is,I've made somewhat a lot of extra cuts on my body and I need to hide it cause I'm gonna meet this awesome girl this weekend that's on the way,she knows I cut but she doesn't really know how much my bodys been harmed,I really don't want her to see it,I'm just afraid that she might think bad of me so there's been more cuts made last night cause of the stress and pressure,so I don't know what to do to actually hide it just for that night,so if anyone could help me I would apprciate it.....thanks
   
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Re: can you help me?I feel like commiting suicide - December 1st 2013, 04:42 PM

Hi there,
Have you had a look at the list of self harm alternatives, it could help you to stop cutting and can be found here. Can you wear clothing over your cuts for example, long sleeves or a jumper? You could also try hiding it with make-up as well.
Also, its important you take care of your wounds, you can find first aid information here.
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Re: can you help me?I feel like commiting suicide - December 1st 2013, 06:05 PM

Hey Juan, how are you? Haven't spoken in a while.

As for your problem, I agree with Jenny, you should wear a jumper or a hoodie, however remember, lying to people you care about is not good for you. It will just negatively affect your relationship.

As for your SH, you seem to like this girl, have you tried thinking about her reaction to finding out about what you've done as you feel triggered? That helps me quite a bit when I feel triggered, not all the time, but a lot of the time.

You could try using bio-oil on the scars to try and reduce the noticeability of the wounds however I'm not sure that will work out too well seeing as it's intended for long-term use.

Anyways, I hope you're okay, feel free to VM/PM me if you want to talk about this some more.

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Re: can you help me?I feel like commiting suicide - December 1st 2013, 09:27 PM

Hi there,

Some great suggestions have been given about hiding the injuries or reducing the appearance such as long sleeves, or even wearing some extra bracelets, depending on the location.

Remember though that even if you don't show her the extent of the injuries on this first encounter, eventually you probably will run into a time when she will see the full extent of them, especially if the two of you grow close or things grow more serious. If she truly cares about you for you, she won't mind as much and may even turn into a support system.

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Re: can you help me?I feel like commiting suicide - December 2nd 2013, 03:39 AM

Hey guys,thank you for helping me and making me feel more confedent and a bit of releive for when I'm going on that date,I will let you all know how it went and how she reacted,its the first time we see eachother and knows I cut,but ill wear long sleeves and bracelets as I always do so again thanks
   
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Re: can you help me?I feel like commiting suicide - December 3rd 2013, 08:50 PM

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Hey guys,thank you for helping me and making me feel more confedent and a bit of releive for when I'm going on that date,I will let you all know how it went and how she reacted,its the first time we see eachother and knows I cut,but ill wear long sleeves and bracelets as I always do so again thanks
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Re: can you help me?I feel like commiting suicide - December 4th 2013, 05:26 AM

Hi my friends,I'm actually so excited to go on that date on saturday,its wednesday today and the time is coming near,she means so much to me and I really hope that things will go perfect,ill just be myself and pray to God to not to make a mistake,I will let you all know how it went after the date,thank you so much for your support
   
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Re: can you help me?I feel like commiting suicide - December 4th 2013, 08:39 PM

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Re: can you help me?I feel like commiting suicide - December 14th 2013, 08:38 AM

Hey guys,well the date went well but ended badly,we'll she saw the cuts and wasn't very happy about it,don't understand cause she knows that I self harm but on the date it kinda got hot and I just took off my hoodie and well she just asked me "if I'm still ok" and I replied "yes I'm fine" then she said,"I don't think this is gonna work out between us"and she just left me there and until now I'm trying to speak to her but she just keeps on ignoring me,well I think she didn't think of how bad it was and I'm just so heart broken and I............well I don't know anymore,been cutting again the whole week thru,feel like I'm not being wanted anymore by anyone,so worthless,unwanted,ugly,I've lost my hope in love,I am being ignored by all cause now everyone knows about me selfharming so well I don't know
   
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Re: can you help me?I feel like commiting suicide - December 14th 2013, 09:45 AM

I don't know what the circumstances of your date were, but if a girl were to ditch you just because you had cut a few days prior, she isn't worth your time. There are girls who will understand that you self harm and support you rather than leave you.
It will make you feel better if you explained to her why you cut yourself. If she still leaves, she isn't worth your time.


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