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Question How do I tell my mum about my self harming? - February 12th 2015, 02:02 AM

I'm currently 2 months clean and came close to relapsing about a million times, but I need to get my wisdom teeth out in a month and the dentist said I have to wear a t-shirt. I have a month to tell her and I don't know how to, help?


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Re: How do I tell my mum about my self harming? - February 12th 2015, 05:38 AM

Just be totally honest with her. She may get a little worried but just tell her you've been free for 2 months and are trying to not do it ever again. I'm sure things will go fine.


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Re: How do I tell my mum about my self harming? - February 12th 2015, 10:19 AM

Hey there,

First of all two months is great, well done!
When parents/people close to us find out about our self harm, they are naturally worried. This worry can sometimes come across as anger/disappointment but in time they usually come around. Perhaps just sit her down and tell her that you used to do it but you are two months free and you intend to keep trying. If you ind it difficult to do this in person, perhaps write her a letter?

If you really are concerned about telling her is there a way you can wear a jumper to the dentist and then take it off when you're in there? Perhaps ask your mum not to come in the room with you?

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Re: How do I tell my mum about my self harming? - February 12th 2015, 02:02 PM

why do you have to wear a tshirt i need to get my wisdom teeth pulled as well

also, just wear a sweatshirt and take it off when you go in my parents never go in with me
   
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Re: How do I tell my mum about my self harming? - February 12th 2015, 07:02 PM

I agree with Charli. Parents are from a different generation and often lack understanding when it comes to self-harm. Your mom might get a little upset, but she is probably upset at the situation you're in and not you. She'll most likely need to think things through. I like the idea of writing her a letter because it gives you a chance to gather your thoughts. If you want to tell her in person but are scared of her reaction, you can do it in public so she'll stay composed. Definitely let her know that you've been free for a few months now, and consider telling her what she can do to help you.


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Re: How do I tell my mum about my self harming? - February 15th 2015, 11:37 PM

My wisdom teeth are growing sideways and under my other tooth so it's a full surgery and they need to monitor something in my arm


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Re: How do I tell my mum about my self harming? - February 15th 2015, 11:39 PM

Also, thanks everyone.. I think I might write a letter and leave it for her when I go to school so she has time to cool off and I have time to calm down from any anxiety I will have


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