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Telling a teacher about your scars? - May 16th 2015, 04:08 AM

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So there's this teacher I really really trust and I kind of want to show him my scars. I know they have teacher rules where they have to tell parents about self harm but since my scars look fairly old I was thinking I could just tell him that they're old and I'm recovering, then do you think he'd believe me and not tell anyone in school? I really don't want my parents to find out!
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Re: Telling a teacher about your scars? - May 16th 2015, 04:17 AM

I think that whether or not he tells depends on what he interprets after you two talk. If he determines that you're safe and that everything that has been done is old, then he may be more willing to not report it. If he has any reason to believe that these scars are less old than you are saying or that you are still self harming, or that you are unsafe, then he may report it. His ultimate goal is to keep you safe so if he has any reason to worry, he may say something.

But I think that it is worth it to tell your teacher about it, because he can be a support system for you. He can be someone to listen to you, and he can help you cope and solve your problems. It is worth talking to him about it!

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Re: Telling a teacher about your scars? - May 16th 2015, 06:01 AM

The way I understand it even if you tell them you are recovering and haven't done it or whatever they still have to tell. That's what happened to mwah.

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Re: Telling a teacher about your scars? - May 16th 2015, 06:51 PM

I honestly think it will depend on your schools policy. They might not tell your parents because they are old, but the fact that you've put yourself at risk and might still be at risk to yourself, might mean they will tell you parents.

Its up to you whether you do tell or not but I think it's so great you have a teacher like this that you can trust and want to encourage you to talk to them despite what the outcome might be.

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Re: Telling a teacher about your scars? - May 17th 2015, 03:49 AM

I think it does depend on school policy. I think there are a lot of places that would report something like that. I don't think that you should hesitate in telling your teacher though. It's great that you have someone you trust and can confide in about these things. I know you have your reasons for not wanting them to report it but having support in regards to dealing with this is such an amazing asset and you shouldn't deny yourself that support.

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