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Self Harm If you or someone you know is struggling with self harm and needs advice or alternatives, we're here to help.

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How do I hide these? - July 14th 2015, 05:00 AM

So me and my girlfriend made a promise that every time one cut the other would too.
This seemed all fine and dandy until I had to act on it.

I've been clean for 6 months now and I had to throw it all away for some stupid promise and I can't stop cutting now. It's like I've started all over again and I'm getting more and more depressed about it.

Do you have any good ways to help with my girlfriends self harm without me cutting?/ do you have any good ideas on how I can stop again,

Also if you have any idea how to hide cuts that would be great.... Thanks for your time


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Re: How do I hide these? - July 14th 2015, 06:04 AM

i think the best way to hide cuts will be to just not cut, and just think positively. The main problem with SH is that it starts when you think negatively.. the more you blame yourself for sh-ing , the more you get depressed and the more you feel bad about it. The best way to overcome it is to be happy, do things that will make you happy, like gaming, friends, etc and partying or stuffs and just be happy and jolly

Stay strong and remember that if you are in a position to support your girlfriend, you'll definitely be in a position where you can overcome your pain and the both of you can grow through this situation together. Spend time with her, be honest with her, be mushy and make sure that she knows that you're there for her.

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Re: How do I hide these? - July 14th 2015, 06:28 AM

Hi Izzie

As Screw said (or yoshi :3), maybe try to think more positively, because most of the time people SH whenever they feel negative. I try to catch myself whenever I think of something negative and turn it into something positive. Like, let's say I think of an embarrassing thing I did earlier in the day. I try thinking of the good things I did before and after that. For you, maybe whenever you feel like SH'ing, you could remind yourself how strong you were to go 6 months without it

Have you shown your girlfriend any alternatives to self-harm? If not, I recommend maybe sitting down with her and talking about some with her Maybe you two could also share ideas on better ways to stop SH'ing for the other? So you don't have to hurt yourself if she does it, and the other way around. As to hide the cuts, if they aren't too big or deep, put a bandaid on it? Be sure to clean it before and after you put it on though Love you, good luck!


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Re: How do I hide these? - July 14th 2015, 06:31 AM

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Re: How do I hide these? - July 14th 2015, 09:10 PM

Don't hurt yourself because of someone else, my lovely There are so many ways to support someone but this isn't one of them. I know your heart is in the right place and you're just trying to help, but it's difficult to help someone by plunging yourself into the darkness with them. Instead, you can try and reach out and pull them into the light, that way both of you are staying safe. Be supportive and talk to her when she's feeling low, and send her this.
You might want to take a look at it too, in case you get the urge to self harm. Well done on being clean for so long, you can do this. It's certainly not an easy battle I don't think the pact is a very good idea though, it has the potential to hurt both of you a lot more than necessary.



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Re: How do I hide these? - July 14th 2015, 09:18 PM

Hey there,

I don't think it's healthy to have that 'deal'. I think that you and your girlfriends recovery should be separate from one another. So, if one of you cuts the other person should not have to cut. I think that you can support each other without partaking in this activity. I think the best thing you can do is link your girlfriend to: Alternatives to Self Harm.

I think that you guys can get through this. Overcoming the desire to self harm after you have is difficult but it is possible. It might help if you think of the reasons why you decided to stop self harming. I know that this has helped me in the past when I have had relapses.

I hope that this helped and I am wishing you the best of luck.


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