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I miss it - June 27th 2017, 08:31 AM

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I miss cutting myself.
The only real reason that I have stopped is because both my parents know about it, and will beat me if I do it again. That's kinda ironic, I'm not hurting myself because I fear that I will get hurt by my parents.

The other night I was crying (like most nights) and I suddenly remembered how cutting used to give me a release from everything. How it used to make me feel better.
I honestly miss cutting, and seeing the blood. I miss the relief it gave. I could really use that right now.
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Re: I miss it - June 27th 2017, 06:59 PM

It's normal and understandable to miss cutting yourself. Even though the relief is only temporary, it does provide relief and that is something many people miss throughout their recovery.

What self-harm alternatives do you use? Maybe you could find new ones that give you similar relief. For instance, you could exercise, listen to your favorite music, or eat a little chocolate to release endorphins similar to what cutting would release. You could also consider drawing with red ink, either on yourself or on paper. You could try temporary tattoos as well to get the similar visual that blood would give.

Your parents are a good reason to stop self-harming but can you think of any more reasons that are more for yourself? For instance, maybe you want to stop so you can wear clothes that you can't wear when you self-harm or because you want to learn to be kinder to yourself. Thinking of new reasons could help give you a different perspective.

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Re: I miss it - June 30th 2017, 12:23 PM


I think it's understandable that you miss something you used to rely on quite a lot at times like this. But you're doing so well to be getting through it so far without hurting yourself. You don't deserve to be hurt by other people, and you certainly don't deserve to hurt yourself either.

Is there something else you could do which gives you a similar sense of release but which doesn't end up with you getting hurt? For example, could you draw on some paper or scribble on some paper? Maybe you could rip up lots of paper as quickly as you can so that some energy is going into it as well. You could also try piling up your pillows and knocking them over with something as hard as possible. None of them are quite the same as self harm but I think that's the point here. They may not give you the same sense of release but they will give you an outlet, and when you're sad an outlet is a very valuable thing.

Keep strong, ok? You can do this. I know it's hard but if you need us we're here. <3

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