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Why? - September 8th 2018, 07:38 PM

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[SIZE="a"]You have the feeling to self harm and just like that this person gave in. They are thinking what has happened to me, why am I doing this? You think about what a horrible person you are because you just self harmed. What now? Can you stop? Will you be okay? That's the question you ask yourself over and over again. You want to scream, but you are alone and no one will hear you![/size]
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Re: Why? - September 8th 2018, 10:40 PM

I think this is a common feeling experienced by those who have urges to self-harm/engage in self-harming behaviors. The urges can be very powerful and, when acted upon, make one feel like they're weak or a terrible or horrible person for acting on the urges. A barrage of negative thoughts can occur that only fuel the desire to self-harm even more. It's a vicious cycle, and one that's hard to get out of.

The thing to remember, though, is that you are not a terrible person for having urges to self-harm, or for self-harming. If you're experiencing these urges you're probably struggling with a lot, and the truth is that you are doing your best. We do what we can in the moment. Sometimes that's self-harm, because that's the only way we know how to make ourselves feel better, and that's okay. The key is to learn about other skills and ways of coping so that, when distressed, we can find things to calm ourselves with that aren't as harmful.

If you're struggling with self-harm, you're brave, and I want you to know you can get through this. It won't always have to be a struggle, and you're doing an amazing job just by seeking help. If you ever want to talk I'm just a PM or VM away.

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Re: Why? - September 11th 2018, 07:29 PM

As it has been said, you most definitely are not a horrible person for feeling like hurting yourself. A lot of people feel similarly sometimes. It was said above but I want to reiterate that self-harm is a coping skill. For some it is an alternative to suicide. Self-harm is an unhealthy and potentially dangerous coping skill, but it is a sign that you are trying your best to cope with something.

Definitely try to learn some other skills if you can. Other coping skills and alternatives to self-harm can be overwhelming all at once, so try taking it slowly. One new healthy coping skill at a time.

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