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Wondering Why - January 17th 2009, 02:25 PM

Hi. I was just wondering really if you know why you Self-harm?

I mean i know for a lot of of people its hard to explain what causes the urges and for me it was at least two years before i understood why..

i think for me it helps me feel in control when i have loads of work to do for school and things to remember. Also i guess its when i feel really angry.. i've heard a lot of arguements so whenever i hear any raised voices or disagreements i get really tense and abit scatty lol. i used to think it was better to take it out on myself rather than other people.

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Re: Wondering Why - January 17th 2009, 02:52 PM

for me, I use it to say something...but be quite
I'm really about pleasing people and I don't want them to know how much they hurt me or make me feel sad. I feel when I do it, I'm can shout out what's bugging me and they never have to know.

Ofcourse... this is not the right way to deal with things my guidance councler and I are working on ways to tell people I'm upset and not always thinking about please other people.

I'm glad that I know why though, so this way I can get closer to stopping


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Re: Wondering Why - January 17th 2009, 02:56 PM

For me, it's about a "release". I've always only cut when i've been in one of my "break downs" and cutting has helped to release these feelings.
However, recently i've realised that I also do it to "feel", well - i'd imagine that i'd try and do it to release some sort of emotion, i've felt numb recently and desired it (I can usually control urges). So yeah, I haven't given in to that, but now i'm thinking that's a part of it too.

I've realised that cutting only releases my pain for a minute or two, then it just causes more pain due to the healing/having to hide it/feeling like i've given in to my urges etc, so as a reminder - in the long run it is completely not worth it, hence why i'm not giving into the urges anymore.

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Re: Wondering Why - January 17th 2009, 02:58 PM

i cut wheni want pain...
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not even to feel incontroll...but just for the pain..
nd to release the anger i have toward myself...out on myself
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Re: Wondering Why - January 17th 2009, 02:59 PM

i simply cut because i can't cry.
   
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Re: Wondering Why - January 17th 2009, 03:07 PM

Kaila i agree.. it deffinately helps to deal with Self-harm when you understand why you do in the first place. It's never easy to stop but for me understanding helped to cope and try and avoid situations that make me feel that way
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Re: Wondering Why - January 17th 2009, 03:22 PM

i cut when i can't be everything i want myself to be, i cut when i feel insignificant and like i can't be what i want and i can't do what i want and a cut when i have flash backs

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Re: Wondering Why - January 17th 2009, 03:29 PM

I do it when I feel like I should be punished.




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Re: Wondering Why - January 17th 2009, 03:42 PM

I never really thought about it. It was usually to release all the built up emotion. When my Dad was screaming at me, or he and my brother were fighting, or when I had had a bad day at school and people were picking on me, I'd just stay quiet and try and fade away. I went home and cut and cut and thought about how much I hated them all. It was just my way of releasing and of getting the emotion out. I guess I felt like I was standing up for myself too, but also punishing myself for being too scared to say anything, if that makes sense. I can't really remember though, I've not done it for 3 years
   
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Re: Wondering Why - January 17th 2009, 03:58 PM

Well done Claire for staying SH free for soo long!! thats amazing.. you must be so proud
thanks for your posts everyone.. it's really interesting to hear other people's feelings
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Re: Wondering Why - January 17th 2009, 04:00 PM

I kind of did it for a bunch of different reasons over the years. Lately, it has been an inability to express how I'm feeling.

But, 35 days without! Woo!


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Re: Wondering Why - January 17th 2009, 04:11 PM

I cut because I don't know how else to cope. I cut so I can deal with things. I cut so I can feel. I cut so I can make it through today. I cut so I know that I'm alive. I cut because I feel worthless and I think that I deserve it.


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Re: Wondering Why - January 17th 2009, 04:23 PM

It's pretty complex for me, anyway. When I used cut, it was to release painful feelings, to feel something instead of being numb, to prove that I was alive and to feel in control of something in my life, when everything else seemed like it was out of control.

I haven't cut in over 7 months, though. But it hasen't been easy, but it's been a worthwhile fight--it's made me stronger overall.
   
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