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it still feels wrong - July 27th 2009, 04:39 AM

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im trying to quit cutting.
it's been a week since i have.
earlier today i got very emotional and almost cut but instead i grabbed 2 pieces of ice and squeezed them in my hands until they melted totally away.
it hurt very bad but calmed me down.
i was in a good mood for a while after it but now i just feel like what i did with the ice is self harm too because i did it to not cut but it had the same effect as cutting and since it hurt is it self harm?
is it wrong what i did with the ice?
or is that a good alternate?
   
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Re: it still feels wrong - July 27th 2009, 04:50 AM

Hey Hayley,

I think it's a really good thing that you're quitting. The ice, on your part was a brilliant idea, really. As much as you would think it's the same thing as cutting, or self harm, it's not, because ice is just frozen water and it doesn't cause permanent damage. This is a good temporary thing to do but as time goes on you'll find you won't need it, you'll find better ways of experssing your frustration/sadness/over whelming emotions. I wish you soo much luck on quitting. It's hard, I know, but you'll get through it. You will.

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Re: it still feels wrong - July 27th 2009, 04:51 AM

I think it would still be sonsidered slef harm, but still a much better alternative.
It's really hard to just stop cutting. A lot of people take baby steps, like snapping rubber bands, or holding ice. As long as you thought of it as an alternative, and not as self harm, it's ok.
   
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Re: it still feels wrong - July 27th 2009, 05:00 AM

hmm... well at first i thought it was alternative but now that i think about it once it started to hurt i felt the exact same way i do when i cut.
im really confused.
   
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Re: it still feels wrong - July 27th 2009, 07:13 AM

I'm not sure, I ALWAYS hear about people doing stuff like that and I always think, "Is that self harm?" but I don't know. I guess it depends on your views...I guess that would be easier then to stop cutting, so if you do that, you don't need to cut, then once you don't need to cut, you can slowly stop yourself from using the ice cubes(they're kind of like a crutch)
   
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Re: it still feels wrong - July 27th 2009, 07:53 AM

yeah i can see that.
maybe this will work (:
   
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Re: it still feels wrong - July 27th 2009, 08:19 AM

I don't really think its self harm, where is the harm in holding ice?


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Re: it still feels wrong - July 27th 2009, 04:13 PM

thats true... (:
   
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