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Lil September 3rd 2009 03:19 AM

Um...??
 
So today after school i was sitting with my boyfriend while he was holding my hand he saw some little cuts i have on wrist theres only a few and there not very noticable unless your looking.He was like what happened?i said my cat scratched me(which was a lie but i wouldnt tell him the truth)and in a serious voice he was like really those look intentional and then he went to a joking voice and was like nah jk id never imply you would do that intentionally :/ this confused me not really sure what to think about this:huh: but know i feel horribly guilty..just needed to write it out i guess...

Ngikhona September 3rd 2009 05:46 AM

Re: Um...??
 
I think there's a couple things that could've caused him to react how he did (or a combination of some):
  • He really didn't believe you'd do that (maybe he thinks you're "too happy" for that or something)
  • He didn't want to believe you would really do that, so he's sort of trying to trick himself by joking about it
  • He felt awkward about the subject and made a joke to try to make it less awkward
  • He doesn't really understand cutting very well, and sort of wanted to get off the subject

IF you feel comfortable with him, both as a boyfriend and a friend, I think it might be a good idea to try to tell him about your cutting. Maybe he could try to help you, plus it could help ease your guilt.

Angel September 3rd 2009 07:38 AM

Re: Um...??
 
Perhaps he does not feel as though he should pursue the subject if you're not ready to talk about it? Lying is never any pleasant but if you do not feel as though you are ready to tell him, then I'm sure he would understand that you told a white lie.

Lil September 4th 2009 03:01 AM

Re: Um...??
 
i think maybe he just doesnt understand very much about it because i know if he really new what it was he would tell my parents.i dont tell even the people im closes to a lot of things about me.A friend of mine today saw me picking at the cuts and started joking about me cutting myself and it really upset me even though she was kidding but i pretended to laugh about it with her..thank you guys for your replys :)


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