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I did it again.... - February 1st 2011, 01:21 PM

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I went so long without self harm, so long. It was almost 10 months. Then my parents and I got into a huge fight last night, and I just lost the battle. I cut 18 marks into my skin. I am so pissed at myself right now. I feeel like all I have wanted to do the last week is just sleep, cry, and self harm so bad. Just don't know what to do. :/
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Re: I did it again.... - February 1st 2011, 01:36 PM

Hi Trish,

First of all, you haven't lost the battle. I know that sometimes slip ups can seem like the end of everything, but they really aren't. You're still perfectly able to fight and overcome self harm, no matter how many times you accidentally slip up. Don't be angry with yourself. You went a long time without self harming, and you should be proud of that more than you should be disappointed that you made a mistake.

What you have to ask yourself is, doesn't it feel better to go so long without self harm than it does to slip up? Doesn't it feel better to be proud of yourself rather than disappointed? That's exactly what you need to think of everything you get an urge to cut. How better off you feel when you start to overcome self harm instead of giving in to it.

You also might want to try some alternatives, like writing down how you feel. I always used to self harm after fights. What helps me now is getting away for a little while. If you can drive, take a drive and get out of the house. Or just take a walk and have some time on your own. A lot of times I'll come back feeling completely refreshed, and won't feel the urge to cut at all.

It's a hard battle, but it's not over with one slip up. You can do this.





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Re: I did it again.... - February 1st 2011, 08:18 PM

Hey,
Your okay slip ups happen. We all make decisions that we regret just try to fight through it good days will come when u feel pressured by yourself to cut stab an orange or apple it will de stress you a little. PM me if you come to a problem or even if you just wanna chat for a bit give me a message im usually on

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Re: I did it again.... - February 2nd 2011, 02:07 AM

Hey Trish,

I just want to second (third?) what Amanda and Nicole have said.

You went ten months without self-harming. That's more than a great many can do. And you should be very, very proud of yourself for that. So give yourself a metaphorical (or figurative) pat on the back for that!

Definitely check out some alternatives. I'm sure you've seen that list before.

It feels bad. It feels really bad, I know. But please, don't let that take over your life. Just as you can't life your life in fear, you also can't live your life in guilt.

Every time you want to self-harm, remember two things:
1. You made it for ten months. That's VERY impressive in itself, and also a record you want to beat.
2. Tell yourself that you'll do it tomorrow. And tomorrow, tell yourself the same thing.

Please stay strong. We're all here for you. Feel free to let the PMs fly.


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