She doesnt take me seriously

[Lauraawr]

I've been a cutter for nearly a year after my gramp and a close friend of mine died and i've had alot of family problems this year.My mum has found out i cut but it's almost like she doesnt care about it,she's always wanting me to get rid of the scars so other people dont see them but she's never talked to me about why i do it and she just thinks im doing it for attention.I've tried stopping on my own but it's so hard,im too scared to go to the doctors about it and im so scared that if my dad finds out he's going to be dissapointed in me.How can i talk to my mum about this?!

[.Jess.]

Hey

I am really sorry you seem to be going through a hard time at the moment, wanting to speak to your Mum about your problems is a really positive thing! How did your Mum find out about your self harming? Does she know you still do it? Could it be possible your Mum doesn't know how to react to what you are doing to yourself, and as a result of this she is ignoring the problem? I don't know what kind of family problems you have had, but it must be very hard for your Mum to hear you're doing this to yourself, you're her daughter

You could perhaps write a letter to your Mum explaining how you're feeling? This could give her a better understanding of what you're going through and then maybe she'll have more of an idea of how to help. Quite often when you write things down you are able to express things in writing you'd struggle to in words, so it might be an idea

It seems to me like you're thinking of seeking help for this problem which is great! If you didn't want to go to the doctors straight away maybe you could begin with maybe telling a teacher? Or someone similar? They could support you then when you wanted to see your doctor? Doctors are there to help you, they can offer you lots of different services to help you with your problems, so if you could work up the courage, that would be great

If you ever need to talk to anyone, I'm always here! Take care

[TheQuietGirl]

Hi!

Maybe your Mom is in shock? Perhaps she just doesn't know HOW to deal with this, so she doesn't want to make it worse. I don't think she understands how hard it is on you as well.

Could you talk to your Mom about this? Tell her what's bothering you, why you do it, and how hard it is to stop? If not, you could always write a letter. I write things down then give them to my parents, because I'm really bad at putting things mentally in order to say, and my mind will just blank and such.

Good luck! I'm always free to talk to if you need somebody to And I'm sorry for what you are going through.

[Peri]

Hey there,

Going to see a doctor or telling the people you trust in your life about your self harm issues is scary, but I promise you that things will get better from there. I think you owe it to yourself to get some help.

Writing a letter/email/message to your mum might be a good idea. That way, you can say everything you need to into as much detail as you want without being interrupted, and she can reread it if needs be.

There are lots of people who are willing to help - from your doctor to maybe a school nurse - you just have to reach out.