I need help with my parents

[Haunted]

I have a dream, being a singer, and my parents know about that because I told them when I was 12, three years ago.
They have never supported me and they have never told me anything about that. I mean, when I am insecure and I look for someone to tell me that I can make it, they are never there. They only make me feel worse. They tell me "that's just a hobby, nothing important. Find a real job instead". Once they even told me that I am not a good singer and I never will be.
They have never supported me but things got worse this year so I started cutting because I didn't know what to do.

They don't know about my cutting but I bet they would just say "stop being stupid! There are millions of people that would kill to have what you have and you waste your life this way? Stop complaining!"

What should I do? I can't tell them because I am too afraid.
Please help me!

[Thirteen]

Ignore your parents, and continue working on your singing. Stop cutting. Is there any way you can join a choir?

Plus, I know in America, Canada, and a bunch of European countries, they have those Idol competitions. Maybe you could look into that, when you're 16 (I think that's the age you need to be for those shows?). For now, maybe join a choir, or sing on your own time, or do karaoke.

Cutting won't solve anything. It'll leave you with scars that'll make you more insecure, first of all. Plus, hiding cuts is a bitch. Also, cutting definitely WON'T help you to become a singer, but doing something associated with singing instead will.

PM me if you need to talk.

[Dr.Bobby]

Serena, I think it's very important for you to stop hurting yourself. If you cannot control those urges, then you really need to tell some trusted adult, maybe someone in school like a counselor who can intervene on your behalf with your folks. The goal is to feel better, and if you need something from your folks for that (like therapy to help them listen and be more supportive), then you should at least try to get some other adult to help with that, your folks might be more responsive to them, anyways.

With regard to your singing, I understand the power of passion! Good for you for finding that and so thoroughly enjoying it. The thing about passion is that they're best enjoyed privately, the relationship people have with their passions is intense and intensely private, that's part of the reason they cannot understand the depth of your feelings here. I think for the time being gaining their acknowledgment might not be the wisest thing, it's certainly unnecessary for your continued enjoyment, and it's getting in the way. More important that they don't prevent you from doing it and engaging in it. As for the future, well, that's yet to be determined, you don't have to select a life long career (nor do they need to accept it) just yet. So why not just take that off the table for the time being?

[Iridescence]

First off if you feel like SHing, you could try the Alternatives which is the sticky on the top of this forum.
Second, your parent's have no right to treat you like this, they should be encouraging you to follow your dreams and to go for them. Not putting you down, what parent does that?
Bottom line, please try the alternatives, ignore your parents and their hurtful words, go for your dream if that is what you want to do
Good luck Serena
(by the way, welcome to TeenHelp )

[Haunted]

thank you. I am trying to stop cutting because I hate it, but I don't know who to talk to. There's no councelor in my school and I don't know anyone that could help me. That's the problem.

[Iridescence]

Try asking a parent, guardian, or older sibling to see a counselor outside of school?
I'm always here if you need to talk