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Angry srsly?! - November 1st 2011, 04:48 AM

It really pisses me off when people make jokes about SH. I can't stand it. People are SO insensitive.
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Re: srsly?! - November 1st 2011, 05:58 AM

As long as they're not targeting a specific person (or just making a joke knowing a person in the group self harms), I'm ok with it.
Some ridiculous cliche's are associated with SH, and to be honest, a person that that has just started to SH or is proud of self harming doesn't deserve anyone's sympathy. It's only when you are recovering and recognize how wrong it was to even start this habit that you can expect people to be considerate.
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Re: srsly?! - November 1st 2011, 01:54 PM

People make jokes about everything. People make self harm jokes when they don't understand it, or they make fun of everything (like me), or sometimes they're just jerks. But if everyone avoided every joke that could be insensitive, no one would joke about anything. I make self harm jokes occasionally, but I also make sure I'm aware of who I'm with and who might hear me just like I do with any other offensive jokes. The best you can do is either ignore it, or talk to whoever it is making the jokes and say "hey, that's not cool."

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Re: srsly?! - November 1st 2011, 01:56 PM

Yeah, some people can be insensitive but also some people just don't realise how much what they're saying can really upset someone. The best thing to do in situations like that, where people are making jokes, is just kindly tell them to stop and if they don't, remove yourself from the situation so you don't have to hear them.
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Re: srsly?! - November 1st 2011, 02:09 PM

yes, I do too.
There's a friend of mine who's one year older than me and who always jokes about SH. Once she said "I'm emo", then she drew a line on her wrist with her red pen pretending to cry.
I can't stand it because she doesn't understand that SH isn't stupid, it's a serious thing.
I hate when people joke about things they don't know at all. They sound like pure idiots!

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Re: srsly?! - November 1st 2011, 06:29 PM

I had a teacher that used to joke about it all the time. She'd say FML and pretend to cut her wrist with her finger. She was my drama and religion teacher. I walked out of about 4 play rehersals and 2 religion classes. She never understood. At that time I was still together with my ex. One class that he had with her, she did it. He got up and went right up to her in the middle of class and lectured her...He got detention for a week and she never EVER did it again.

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Re: srsly?! - November 2nd 2011, 07:42 AM

I hate when people make SH jokes. It hurts.
Also, it's really hard to hide my reaction, and I'm afraid people will notice
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Re: srsly?! - November 2nd 2011, 08:04 PM

I agree whole heartedly. I was talking to one of my online friends about SH and this chick came on and started saying all kinds of crap and how people who talk about it are posers and that SH is stupid and people just want attention. Don't they realize how bad we are hurting? People are so blind.

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Re: srsly?! - November 2nd 2011, 09:13 PM

i feel the exact same way. Its stupid. But whats horrible is when the person thats making the joke knows that you SH and your sitting right next to them, but they dont care.
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Re: srsly?! - November 2nd 2011, 11:04 PM

i agree. Its so annoying. Whenever someone at my school jokes about it, i just walk away. They think its funny, i just want to slap them sometimes. If only they'd understand, what its like to feel like thats the only thing that would help.

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Re: srsly?! - November 5th 2011, 08:53 PM

I hate when people say those things too, but now it only really bothers me when I'm in a triggered mood. I don't laugh at the jokes or anything but I've learned to ignore them most of the time.

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Re: srsly?! - November 14th 2011, 03:45 AM

I know what you mean! In my college anatomy class I sat next to this guy who made nonstop jokes about self harm and suicide. I have a lot of scars and keep them covered so he would often call me emo and all sorts of other names. It bothered me but I had to deal with it. Sometimes though I just want to slap him and tell him to get over himself! grrrr.
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Re: srsly?! - November 15th 2011, 09:50 AM

I hate it when people are stereotypical or make jokes about SH! Today we got these pictures for D.T, I got these black shears because I chose "sheer bad luck", My teacher gave them to me and told me "here, Sheers to cut yourself", it was a picture so obviously I couldn't SH... but it made me so mad! then this girl said it was quite funny.
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Re: srsly?! - November 15th 2011, 06:40 PM

ugh, thats just people displaying their ignorance, dont let it get you down remember jesus loves you.
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Re: srsly?! - November 15th 2011, 08:14 PM

oh i know! its so hurtful. its like well it may be a joke to you but to us its reality and its part of our life. Just try to ignore them because their just immature.

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Re: srsly?! - November 15th 2011, 08:18 PM

I agree. But you cannot let this bother you. The people who say stuff to offend people with SH are insecure, and who knows? They could have it themselves and be in denial. Either way, they don't understand it and when you react in an angry way they take it as their winning. Kill em with kindness stay strong!

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Re: srsly?! - November 16th 2011, 11:49 PM

it pisses me off and i have to bite my tongue to stop from being a bitch about it. i just kindly ask them to please stop. it takes all my inner strength to do it though. try not to let it get to you. i know how hard that is though.

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Re: srsly?! - November 19th 2011, 02:28 PM

People make jokes about all sort of things like this, from SH to Homosexualtiy. It is one of those things that people don't really understand and they just see the sterotype of people that self harm and "emos". I think they don't really understand how much what they are saying can hurt people.
You don't have to hear it though, perhaps ask them to stop or remove yourself from the situation.

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Re: srsly?! - November 29th 2011, 07:45 PM

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