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Exclamation Scars - March 1st 2012, 10:50 PM

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Im going on a trip tomorrow and everyone is going swimming but ive been cutting on my leg(stopped now) but there are still scars there. I dont want to swim but theyll ask me why. What should I say or do? Noone knows about the scars except three people but theyre not going to be there.


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Re: Scars - March 1st 2012, 10:57 PM

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1. Don't swim. Say you're on your period or have cramps for some other reason or you forgot your swimsuit or find other stuff to keep busy with so it doesn't look like you're avoiding it... there are ways to manage it, if you really don't want to swim. (Of course, you can always just be blunt and say you don't want to.)

2. Wear leggings or tights or shorts in addition to your swim suit.

3. Go swimming but attempt to keep legs covered with a towel until you're in the water where no one will notice.

4. Go swimming and realize there's a chance they aren't as bad as you think and no one will assume they are SH.

5. Go swimming and fess up if people notice.

It probably took me two years post-SH to go swimming with no coverings, so don't feel bad about not wanting to swim.. it's tough, even after you've stopped hurting yourself, to deal with the consequences of what you've done.. congrats on stopping, btw. And good luck tomorrow.
   
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Re: Scars - March 1st 2012, 11:34 PM

Thanks I think im just going to go with the first one i dont want to take a chance. Its embarrising really. Thanks for the help


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Re: Scars - March 12th 2012, 09:01 PM

I've been in a similar situation and think the post above is extremely helpful. Dealing with others' reactions to scars can be stressful, and often times it is easier to avoid the situation altogether. Though if you really do want to swim it sounds like great advice. Most of my scars are on my arms, so it's a bit easier to hide, by wearing wristbands a/o arm warmers, my fiancee's family still doesn't know my history of self-harm, so I wear gloves around them constantly.
   
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