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Thumbs up I Told Him :'( - March 10th 2012, 09:26 PM

ive just had the most amazing day with my boyfriend and i told him about about my SH it was so hard but he said he will not think of me any differently or look at me any differently <3 i still dont know if it was the right thing to do but i showed him some of the scars aswell he says h wont tell anyone as long as next time i tell/talk to him insted of hurting myself... i think it was a good idea but then on the other hand i dont think it was but i guess i couldnt hide it forever and i trust him compeletly........
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Re: I Told Him :'( - March 10th 2012, 09:43 PM

It was the right thing to do, I know how it feels when we tell somebody these things and it feels both bad and good at the same time. I think soon you'll feel completely good with your decision to tell him! It's good that you now have somebody you can talk to this about rather than having to hold it all inside! I'm glad he took it so well! Stay strong darling!


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Re: I Told Him :'( - March 10th 2012, 11:47 PM

Hi there :-)

I think it's really good you were honest to your boyfriend about it. Self harm doesn't change you or make you any less of a person. It's nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about but he's clearly supportive and it's good that you now have that support from him. I'm really glad you were honest with him and that's he's been nice about it.

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Re: I Told Him :'( - March 11th 2012, 12:50 AM

I'm so glad that you told your boyfriend about this! It's even better that he says nothing will change between the two of you, because that is how it should be. I'm glad that you have a support system with your boyfriend. It was definitely the right thing to do to tell him.


   
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Re: I Told Him :'( - March 12th 2012, 04:13 PM

<3 thanks xx


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Re: I Told Him :'( - March 12th 2012, 08:47 PM

Well done for getting the courage to do that, I remember doing that myself, it was so scary, so well done. From now on you should definatly talk to him when you feel like harming yourself. Believe that he can help you


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Re: I Told Him :'( - March 14th 2012, 12:07 PM

i hope i can but i dont want to burned him with my problems i still am noe sure xo


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Re: I Told Him :'( - March 14th 2012, 12:15 PM

Hey guys,,
im now thinking telling him was a bad idea why?? am i thinking that


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Re: I Told Him :'( - March 14th 2012, 01:41 PM

It was the right thing to do. Well done! Good to see that he is real supportive.
It was the correct thing. Don't think too much.
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Re: I Told Him :'( - March 14th 2012, 02:07 PM

thanks i hope it was i just think maybe it wasnt but its my mind playing tricks again lol so i hope it was the right thing to do, it felt nice to tell someone finally xx


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Re: I Told Him :'( - March 14th 2012, 04:44 PM

It was the right thing to do no matter what you think. It's a good thing to have him there for you.




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Re: I Told Him :'( - March 14th 2012, 05:00 PM

Wow. That was so brave of you to tell your boyfriend about your SH. Things will get better for you now that you have somebody there to support you whenever you need him to. Hope you can get better and stop with the SH. <3


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Re: I Told Him :'( - March 16th 2012, 09:34 PM

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It was the right thing to do no matter what you think. It's a good thing to have him there for you.
yeah i guess thanks x


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Re: I Told Him :'( - March 16th 2012, 09:36 PM

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Wow. That was so brave of you to tell your boyfriend about your SH. Things will get better for you now that you have somebody there to support you whenever you need him to. Hope you can get better and stop with the SH. <3
thanks hun, it was brave ive never told anyone.. i know its great to have his support but im still getting use to him knowing cause im so use to keeping it to myself :/ aww, thank you xxx


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Re: I Told Him :'( - March 17th 2012, 10:25 PM

BIG REGRET!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


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Re: I Told Him :'( - March 18th 2012, 01:20 AM

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BIG REGRET!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Why is it a big regret?




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Re: I Told Him :'( - March 18th 2012, 02:18 AM

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BIG REGRET!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Aw, why? I think it is really great of you to have told him.


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Re: I Told Him :'( - March 18th 2012, 05:27 PM

because he doesnt love me anymore


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Re: I Told Him :'( - March 21st 2012, 11:23 PM

i told him the biggest secret about my self harm then he dumps me a week later STUPID ME I SHOULD OF NEVER OF TOLD ANYONE thinking they cared


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Re: I Told Him :'( - March 22nd 2012, 04:19 AM

Amy, dont say that. We care about you. It was a good idea to tell him at the start but now i would try to relax and if he tells anybody, tell me, so i will take a plane over there and beat his butt. :P

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Re: I Told Him :'( - March 22nd 2012, 08:34 PM

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Amy, dont say that. We care about you. It was a good idea to tell him at the start but now i would try to relax and if he tells anybody, tell me, so i will take a plane over there and beat his butt. :P

Im not kidding about the whole beat his butt. Even though violence is not the answer.
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aw thanks its nice to know someone cares about me <3,, aww thanks thats really sweet hehe :') i hope he wont tell anyone cause ill kill him lol.. aw thank you ill keep that in mind and im always here for you too xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx


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Re: I Told Him :'( - March 25th 2012, 01:37 AM



Now all that's left of me
Is what I pretend to be
So together, but so broken up inside
'Cause I can't breathe
No, I can't sleep
I'm barely hangin' on

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