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Is Aspergers ok to have? - September 18th 2013, 07:52 PM

I'm Marianne and I'm 14. I have aspergers but I am finding it difficult and am starting to question myself 'why do I have it'. I get bullied alot about it at school and it has gotten so bad it has lead me to depression and almost anxiety and now I feel scared walking around my own school because of the 20 bullies that I have. I did have loads of friends but the bullies turnt them against me now I only have 3 friends left. Does anyone have any advice for me that can help me?
   
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Re: Is Aspergers ok to have? - September 18th 2013, 08:02 PM

Hi Marianne

I have Asperger's, too. I know how you feel. It does come with it's challenges, but remember it'll make you stronger in the end. There's several theories about the Autism Spectrum in general and everyone has their own opinion, so I'll let you come of that idea yourself. There are reasons anywhere from biological, to environmental and chemical. Is there anything in particular that you're struggling with that you'd like to talk about?

As for the bullying, people have no right at all to do that to you. People unfortunately can be rude. Have you told anyone about this? If not, you should try to let a parent or teacher know so they can help you deal with this. You don't deserve to go through this by yourself.



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Re: Is Aspergers ok to have? - September 18th 2013, 08:20 PM

Hey Marianne,

Of course it's 'okay' to have asperges, the same as it's okay for me to be short-sighted or have a low metabolic rate.
It's not something you've brought upon yourself, nor has it developed due to a flaw in you. You were born with a difficulty with social interaction and that's perfectly fine.

I'm really sorry you're having a tough time with bullies and this is the difficult bit - you need to talk someone about it, especially if you're starting to feel depressed and socially anxious.
Have you spoken to your parents about this? Or a teacher at your school? Because the more people that are aware, the better they can combat the bullying.
Another step you could take would be to talk to a counsellor (if there's one at your school?) about how the bullies are affecting your day to day life.
And remember, you can always transfer schools. It's a last resort, but it's an option.

Lastly work on your self esteem, do things that make you happy, even challenge yourself a bit. Something like a Drama workshop would be a great way to confront some social situations and give yourself a lot more confidence.

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Re: Is Aspergers ok to have? - September 18th 2013, 09:06 PM

Hey, I also have asperges, I don't know if you'll find it helpful or not, but I wrote an article for this site on As perges, you might like to read it - here's the link : http://www.teenhelp.org/forums/f128-...gers-syndrome/

I have found what helps me is doing the things that interest me such as karate has always been of interest to me so I joined a karate club - joining a club like a sports club is a great way to make friends as everyone there will have the same or similar interests to you, if they didn't they most likely would not be at the sports club!

I know it aint easy to have as-perges but its not wrong to have it and it is okay to have the syndrome, it makes you who you are.



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Re: Is Aspergers ok to have? - September 18th 2013, 09:32 PM

There is nothing wrong with having Aspergers. It is similar to people having other disabilities or disorders: such as me not being able to see. You can do things such as joining activities you enjoy and learning how to handle social situations from a counselor to help with this.
It may be difficult to live with but with the right support and help, life can be made easier.
Definitely talk to someone at school and your parents about the bullies, there is no reason that you should be treated how you are. The sooner people get involved and that action is taken against these other students, the sooner you will be able to move forward from what they are doing and be able to gain more confidence.


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