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I have to see my abuser every day... - May 14th 2012, 11:55 PM

So I don't want to go into detail for triggering purposes, but I was abused sexually, physically, and emotionally by my ex girlfriend. Now, I see her every day at school. I have told my therapist and a close teacher about it, but there isn't much anyone can do and I haven't had the opportunity to talk to either of them about it recently. It's getting to be a lot to handle because I see my ex every day at school. She always stands really close to me, calls me cute, compliments me, and insists on talking to me. We're working on a show together so I know that until the show goes up this week I have to communicate with her, at least about the show, but it's just becoming way too much and now she thinks it's okay to talk to me about things not related to the show. I don't know how to handle seeing her every day. Just looking at her makes me nauseous and I want to curl up into a ball and die every time she talks to me. I try to ignore her but I don't know how I'm supposed to deal with seeing her. I graduate in a month but I'm just having a really hard time hanging in there until then...
Any sort of advice? I'd really appreciate it. I just feel so alone and helpless and sad about it lately...
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Re: I have to see my abuser every day... - May 15th 2012, 03:45 AM

I've never dealt with such a thing before and I don't really know anyone else that has. All the advice I can offer is to try your hardest to avoid her. Go opposite ways from her to classes at school, if she takes the bus take a different bus or get your parent to come get you, just you know, try anything. Im sorry though=( I cant imagine how difficult that must be. I'm always here if you need someone to talk to.

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Re: I have to see my abuser every day... - May 16th 2012, 01:45 AM

I'm sorry that you have to go through all of this and that you had to deal with that. I know it may seem harsh, but have you considered a restraining order? Or an Order of Protection? It seems like it would make it easier on you and considering the types of abuse you dealt with a court will most likely be perfectly fine in approving of it. Then you would not have to work with her, and although I'm not sure of all the details, it will make it illegal for her to be in contact with you at least to a certain point. It also depends on where you live what the Restraining Orders and Orders of Protection cover, but I suggest possibly looking into it, especially seeing as how much she is bothering you mentally/emotionally.

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Re: I have to see my abuser every day... - May 25th 2012, 02:30 PM

I'm in a similar situation with my ex boyfriend and I don't know if this is something you can do, but you could perhaps find alternate routes to your classes that cut back the amount of time you would have to see her. I'm really sorry, I know how awful it is to have to face them everyday. Be strong, and good luck.

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