Triggering: Maybe - a boy at school

[Peter Pan]

A boy at school keeps in touch me on my upper legs under the table when we have classes together, he has only gone up to my upper leg. I don't really want it, but I am scared to say no because he is like one of the only friends that I have, So I don't want to lose the couple of friends that I do have, I know he is gay well he says he is which is fine but I am not, Do I say anything? Its not like he is hurting me or anything, although I am kind of worried that it will lead to anything more. He does joke about me being naked in PE but has never done anything. To be honest, I enjoy the attention that I am getting but I don't want this to be another abusive situation that I can't control anymore. Already been abused twice, he did it in church this morning, which is why I am asking what I should do. Is he just messing around or is it something else? Thanks,


Lewisje

[DemonQueen]

If the way/where is he touching you is making you feel uncomfortable then you need to tell him to stop. I know that you say you don't want to lose the only friends you have but I would rather lose them because I'm sticking up for myself, instead of losing them because it becomes abusive in some way. Stand up for yourself, tell him to stop touching you that way, and continue being friends with him.

[Peter Pan]

I will tru and stand up for myself, hopefully he will understand and we can still be friendsd

Hey there,

You need to stand up for yourself. If this person is truly your friend he will be understanding of what you want and will be respectful of your wishes. I know that it can be hard to stand up for yourself because you are afraid of losing your friends. But, you don't want friends in your life that you can't voice your opinions with. You need to be able to voice you likes and dislikes and have people respect that. If this boy gets upset with you then he isn't worth keeping as a friend.

If you need anything please feel free to message me.

I agree with the people above me. If the touching is making you uncomfortable then you should tell him to stop and that it is making you uncomfortable. If he is a true friend he will respect your wishes and stop doing it and still be your friend. If he doesn't still want to be your friend that he wasn't a true friend to begin with. I would rather be safe and comfortable then in danger and uncomfortable wouldn't you??

[Peter Pan]

I just need more confidence to say something, nothing happened this week but I had no classes with him. I will say something but maybe talk to my therapist to work out what to say first. I don't have many frriends as it is. I want to feel comfortable around him because I do like him I just don't want him to touch me anymore.