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Degrading sex? - April 16th 2016, 02:56 PM

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When I was 15 I was sexually assaulted by someone close to me. I made it very clear that I did not want that to happen, begging to stop. Now I am 22 and can't stop having destructive, unhealthy, and degrading sex. I'm attracted to pain and choking, and basically being just a piece of shit hole to fuck. I feel so disgusting afterward that I just crawl into a ball and cry, but I can't stop. I tell myself not to do it, not to put myself alone with people for this reason, but I always get talked into it or start it myself... What is wrong with me?
   
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Re: Degrading sex? - April 16th 2016, 05:21 PM

I don't think there's anything wrong with you. Some people are drawn to sex after being assaulted. I think it is a way to punish yourself, or self-harm by creating the physical and emotional pain you felt during the assault when you were fifteen.

Like any other form of self-harm, it might help for you to look into some alternatives. Instead of being with someone for unhealthy reasons, maybe go out for a meal or for a hike. You can keep yourself in public when you're around people as that might help you feel safer.

Someone on here once told me about a DBT skill. I don't remember the exact words, but the gist of the skill is do to the opposite of the unhealthy thing you're thinking of doing. For instance, if you're thinking of meeting up with someone to have sex and you know you don't want to, meet up with someone for lunch or for a movie instead. You want to hurt yourself through sex, so instead, do something kind for yourself.

Are you able to see a counselor or talk to someone about this? I think you would benefit if you had a chance to work through your feelings with a counselor. If you can't or don't want to, I suggest keeping a journal or a blog, or finding some other ways to express your feelings so they don't bubble up and make you want to punish yourself.


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