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Exclamation molested??? - October 22nd 2009, 10:17 PM

Last night I was hanging out with some friends in my friends basement, and I was sitting between my guy friend, and the guy I really like. The guy I like knows exactly what to do to turn me on, and he told my friend, so he started touching me all over. He kept squeezing my legs and sticking his hands on and around my private area even after I told him to knock it off. I couldn't get up and move cause he was sitting on my arms and pulling my hair. He never went under my clothes, but I still felt really violated and now I'm kinda freaking out and my mind freaks every time I see him. Was I molested?


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Re: molested??? - October 22nd 2009, 11:33 PM

I'm sorry this happened to you. I really am. And unfortenatley because you told him to stop I think it is molestation but I'm not possitive.


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Re: molested??? - October 23rd 2009, 12:02 AM

I'm like freaking out because he's one of my friends and I don't know what to do. I don't want him to get in trouble but I don't want him to think it's okay to do that to me. I'm freaking out right now and holding back tears...


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Re: molested??? - October 23rd 2009, 01:30 AM

Hey there,

No matter what you call it, what your friend did to you was not okay at all. If you told him to stop and he kept going, that is unacceptable. You are entirely justified in feeling violated and hurt by this.

I understand that you do not want to get your friend in trouble. I do think, however, that you should consider whether or not it is in your best interests to remain friends with him. Can you ever feel safe around him after this?

I also think it would be helpful if you talked to someone about what happened. Sometimes, just having someone to listen can help heal the wounds. A good friend, a family member, or a teacher could help you understand and cope with the emotions you are feeling. Anyone you can trust will work, just find someone who you can confide in.

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Re: molested??? - October 23rd 2009, 03:22 AM

Hey there hun. I'm really glad you decided to reach out here. What happened to you was wrong and I'm sorry you had your trust betrayed like that. No one has a right to touch you in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable especially since you said no. I hope you know that what happened was not your fault.

I do think you should consider telling someone what happened though. Maybe try talking to your mom about it or a teacher/counselor at school or any adult you trust? You deserve support through all of this and you don't need to protect him. A real friend would never do that to you.

Counseling might also help hun. The anxiety you're feeling is completely normal after something like this, but I know it's not a fun thing. A therapist could help you work through those feelings and help you find coping methods that work for you.

If you don't want to talk to someone at least keep yourself safe and stay away from him. He is not a good friend.

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