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Is it possible they didn't realise that what they did was abuse? - November 3rd 2009, 11:35 AM

I was emotionaly abused by my parents for over a year, and even though it's much better then it was, they still do it, just not to the same extreme. They act as if things are completley normal, and don't seem to realise how much it's effected me psychologically. Even when I tried to confront my dad he seemed to dismiss it, like he didn't know what I was talking about. Is it possible that they didn't realise/don't know, that what they were doing was emotional abuse? They told me that it was all my fault at the time. Do they think that they were disciplining me or something? I'm just trying to understand why it happened. If they didn't know, does that make it better? I'm sorry about all the questions...I just feel so confused I guess! What i'm asking primarily is, can a perpetrator really not know that what they are doing/did was abuse? Or do they know, but it just doesn't bother them or stop them?
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Re: Is it possible they didn't realise that what they did was abuse? - November 3rd 2009, 12:18 PM

Well it sounds to me, like they maybe didn't realise what exactly they were doing?
So that's why they are acting kinda diffrent now.

Or it's possible they have realised, and feel somewhat guilty about it, and that's why theyv'e stopped, or calmed down.
Maybe they feel ashamed, so they'd rather 'sweep it under the rug' and forget about it.

I think, even if it's difficult your going to have to talk to them.
You need answers, and to be able to move on,your gonna need to get it staightened out.

Just remember, try not to make it into a confrontation


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Re: Is it possible they didn't realise that what they did was abuse? - November 5th 2009, 07:00 PM

It was not your fault. No matter what they say.They were wrong to do that and should not toss it away like that. Find someone you can talk to and get out all those emotions out.
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