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Exclamation two years later, i've finally accepted it, how do i move on? - January 18th 2010, 03:37 AM

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I'm not sure if this will actually trigger anything, but I'd rather be safe than sorry.

also, I'm sorry for all of the spelling errors, I just don't want ot read it again.

anyways, what happened to me happened two years ago, when I was 15 years old. I was in a relationship with this boy who was 17 years old [who soon after we started dating turned 18 years old] He'd guilt me into doing things with him, almost every time we'd get together. Sometimes he'd even do things after i'd tell him "no". Which, of course, I still blame myself for, believing that I didn't say it firm enough, that he thought I was kidding... I'd try and break up with him and he'd guilt me into staying with him, threatening suicide every single time, and would harass me with phone calls or texts talking about it.... until i stepped in and took him back to end it. this lasted about four months until my family stepped in.

Anyways, two years later and I've finally accepted [for the most part?] that yes, I was sexually abused by a man who should have known better. And I also know that no, I was not the first. But what happened still haunts me, and I imagine that every man I see or meet, wether it be my pratically-boyfriend or my father, will someday put me through the same thing. I can't even tell my dad I love him most of the time, and I just imagine sometimes doing intimate but not INTIMATE things and I get scared and it makes e sometimes fear being in a relationship with him. I've tried talking about it with my family, and soemtimes they listen, and sometimes they'll just say "oh he's a jerk" and nothing else.

How do I begin moving forward with my life?
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Re: two years later, i've finally accepted it, how do i move on? - January 18th 2010, 07:48 AM

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A lot of times, people go through painful past experiences.. especially when they are with the wrong people. but the wrong people are just that, the wrong people to be with. the right people won't even think of doing stuff like that to you! you have to tell yourself that because its true : the right people have your feelings at heart because of that, you have to forget your past experiences.. but also make sure that the people you know are the right people who you can trust, who won't even dream of putting you through the same experience, over again

I think that' s the best way of moving onward.. meet the right person, and then your memories of pain will be turned into bliss and happiness.... alright?

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Re: two years later, i've finally accepted it, how do i move on? - January 19th 2010, 01:53 AM

Thanks Darren, you're a big help!! I'm definately trying that, he just makes it complicated. I can't trust people anymore. Thanks, though, I definately needed to hear that!
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Re: two years later, i've finally accepted it, how do i move on? - January 19th 2010, 06:46 AM

i think you can overcome all that and definitely learn how to trust people again

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Re: two years later, i've finally accepted it, how do i move on? - January 19th 2010, 11:47 PM

Hey there. I agree 100% with Darren. Just want to add this : don't look at every man like that. You are correct it is better to be safer than sorry but don't look at every man in that way - as a man who just wants to hurt you and take advantage. Many are like that unfortunately, but not your father, as he is your family and he stepped in for you.
So don't worry about your father, just don't look at him as another man who is like the guy who wronged you.
   
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