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Angry My friend was sexually abused - March 4th 2010, 03:35 AM

She just came out and said that she was sexually abused a year ago.
She said that she tried telling authorities but under the circumstances, nothing illigal happened. But putting myself in her shoes, it should be illigal.
She said it was just bondage. But he was making her do it. And she would be seriously tied up and whatnot, not being able to do anything about it. She told that it was infact against her will. But there was no evidence of this happening, and the fact that she went over to the guys house (which was her boyfriend at the time... She was 15 and confused) showed that she was willing. 15 year olds are so easily manipulated! Isn't there anyone that she could talk to that will listen? And do something about it? She said that she's scared that he's going to try to manipulate and do this to other girls too.
I don't know, maybe all I can do is comfort her.
She feels so guilty about it.
I admire her bravery to come out and say it though.
   
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Re: My friend was sexually abused - March 5th 2010, 02:49 AM

Hey Emi,

That's the main problem with Sexual Abuse cases, either there's not enough evidence or there's no evidence, and they won't convict someone without evidence. However, she can report it to the police and have them make a record, so that if he does it again, to her or another girl, there will be a trail, proof that he's done it before and that he'll keep doing it.

Could you get your friend to talk to a counselor? A counselor might be able to help her deal with what she's going through right now, and can actually help her heal. You sound like a really good friend, to be so concerned for her, but don't forget to take care of yourself too.

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Re: My friend was sexually abused - March 7th 2010, 10:11 PM

The legal system can be really cruddy sometimes. I'm sorry they haven't taken her seriously because it takes so much to report that kind of thing. It is sexual assault if she didn't consent.

I agree with Cas* try and see if she will talk to a counsellor, if she bottles it up it's only going to make matters worse in the end. Be there to support her all you can, but don't take on something too deep for you to handle.
   
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