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Exclamation What kind of abuse? - June 3rd 2010, 04:45 AM

My dad constantly puts me down and makes me feel bad about myself. He always says how he doesnt understand how my boyfriend loves me and wants to be with me all the time, and how i have any friends because im a selfish bitch(according to him). Then whenever my dad gets mad at me he'll shove me into walls, slap me across the face, punch me in the arm, grab my wrist and twist it, various things. And he always brings up my mistakes which i try to forget and i know my mom does too(my parents found weed on me), and it hurts when he brings it up, and he always calls my depression a joke and how its "lazy selfish bitch syndrome". and whenever im feeling down or something, he always blames it on me being on my period(when its not). I really want to talk to someone about it, and my boyfriend knows what happens in my house, and so does my best friend and they tell me to report it. but is it even abuse?



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Re: What kind of abuse? - June 3rd 2010, 06:18 AM

Yes. Quite simply that's abuse. If he is hitting you, that's abuse. Even what he says can be taken as verbal abuse. You don't have to live like that. You should tell someone. No one should be treated like that, it's not right. Please talk to someone, a counselor, a friend's parent, the police, even call a hotline if you have to. But tell someone.Get your best friend or your boyfriend, or even both, to go with you to report it if need be. But please, talk to someone.


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Re: What kind of abuse? - June 3rd 2010, 01:43 PM

Definitely abuse, as Casey said

Don't be afraid to report it, you really don't deserve to go through that, it can be extremely damaging on your confidence and self-esteem and you can definitely get help for it. Talk to your bf, friends and anyone close to you, having support and someone to back you up can always help a lot, then report it and talk to someone and get help. Best of luck.
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Re: What kind of abuse? - June 3rd 2010, 03:58 PM

It's both physical and emotional abuse, so do yourself a favor and report it. No one deserves to be treated like that.
   
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Re: What kind of abuse? - June 3rd 2010, 06:34 PM

Like the others have said, it is abuse. Due to the fact that he is hitting you, it is physical abuse. I agree with everyone else. You do not deserve to live like this, Please tell somebody, anybody and get yourself out of the situation. Remeber it is not your fault.
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Re: What kind of abuse? - June 4th 2010, 03:04 PM

YES. Thats abuse. and you cant take that from him, you dont deserve it. I agree with everyone else in saying that you should report him. Oh yeah, if he thinks he's funny saying you have "selfish bitch syndrome," it means he is a jackass who never thinks about anybody.
   
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Re: What kind of abuse? - June 15th 2010, 07:57 PM

You should definitely report it. It's not right to be put down like the constantly since in the long run, it could mess a lot of things up for you. I'd report it immediatly. It doesn't need to go on anymore.


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Re: What kind of abuse? - June 17th 2010, 01:10 AM

Thanks guys for all your advice, I think I will report it, but who I report it too? Child Services? The police?



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Re: What kind of abuse? - June 17th 2010, 12:00 PM

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Thanks guys for all your advice, I think I will report it, but who I report it too? Child Services? The police?
It definitely sounds like both physical and emotional abuse and you have every right to report this. It isn't your fault and you deserve the support to make it stop. If you report it to child services the police may still get involved and vise versa. You're doing the right thing by reporting it and we're here to support you through it all.
   
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Re: What kind of abuse? - June 20th 2010, 11:59 AM

It's your choice. The police, child service. You choose. And why not talk to a counselor if you still can't seem to make a choice.
   
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Re: What kind of abuse? - June 20th 2010, 01:34 PM

yes it is abuse. its a form of emotional and physical abuse. you need to report it immediatley


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