Female Advice Preferred: How do I stop dissociating?

[Imaginary]

I recently was sent a package from my father/abuser. I didn't touch it, I tried not to look at it, it wasn't even sent to my house. And yet, three days later, I'm still spacing out. I could feel him on the package and I still can. However I need to get back to my everyday stuff, so I was wondering if someone could help me. Thanks for the support. Love Imaginary.

[Casey.]

Hey there,

Have you tried grounding techniques? I'm not the best at explaining it, but basically it's making yourself aware of your surroundings, bringing you back to the here and now. There's an article about it, that explains it much better than I do, here. Have you ever talked to anyone about your dad, like a counselor or a friend? Sometimes talking about it can help you move forward better. Things are going to trigger memories and make you think about it, but you can get through it. Just keep reminding yourself that he is not there and that you are okay, that you can be okay. Just hang in there, and don't hesitate to pm me if you need anything. Take care.

[aaaaaaaa]

You cant really stop dissociating.
I was sexually abused before so I know how you're feeling.
We dissociate because when bad things like that happen, the brain is protecting itself by not recording the memory.
Did you tell your mom about the package and what he did to you?

[abbya]

I had the same issue a few weeks ago, except it was my father/abuser calling my cellphone. I just dropped my phone and ran the other way. Since that day, I haven't been able to really touch my phone since it now reminds me of him. Dissociation is normal I have been told for abuse victims. Your mind is trying to protect you but it feels that is hurting you. If you don't want to open it you can always bring it to the company that shipped it and say it was sent to the wrong address and they will ship it back. It is ultimately your decision if you want to see what it is. I would say the best option is to talk it out with a therapist or with yourself and see what you think is the right thing for yourself and not anybody else. What is going to help stop with the dissociation and (I don't want to say this) put your memories and the past and not let it control you as you are describing.

If you need to talk, you are welcome to PM me at anytime.